it got to the point where we were about to fight.We've been friends for about a year and been through alot{in fact at first we hated eachother}Now do i be the bigger person and apologize or just say"**** her" and forget about her?
2006-09-14 16:07:20 · 10 answers · asked by Mixed Chick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sounds to me like you really enjoy a relationship that you have to WORK at, considering you hated each other then, liked each other, then got to almost fists today......evaluate whether this is a good thing. should friendship be THIS much work? there are friends i have that i would fly to the moon and backfor. is she one of them? if so, apologize. if she isn't, maybe give yourself a rest on these difficult friends for now :) you can always choose someone else to hate & love & hate later when you've gotten a bit of a break
2006-09-14 16:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Lips 4077 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say wait three days, then see what seems most important to you after you've had that chance to cool down - the friendship or the issue you argued about. If you decide that the friendship is most important, write her a note and tell her that being friends with her is really important to you. Ask her if you and she can agree to disagree about this issue, make a rule between you that you don't talk about it, and pick up the friendship where you two left off.
If the issue turns out to be more important than the friendship, write her a note and say that the matter you argued over is a serious point of division and will get in the way of continuing the friendship, but that the friendship was enriching and important to you and you wish her well. This gets you out of the friendship without a big grudge between you and her, which is always better than a big grudge, bad feelings, and the possibility of a nasty clash down the line.
2006-09-14 23:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize. You said yourself that y'all were best friends and that you have been through a lot. But first, ask yourself ... How good was the friendship? Is she a person who use to brighten up your day or would be there for you whenever you need her? Or does she just get the title of "best friend" because she was the only one there when you decided to pick?
If she is a close friend who has brought you a lot of smiles and maybe it's just a missunderstanding or she is going through a hard time, be the bigger person and apologize. One argument isn't worth ending something special over.
2006-09-14 23:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think how friends argue can either make the friendship better & stonger, or end it outright.
Friends that have never had any disagreements, are not being honest with each other...it's hard to beleve you agree on EVERYTHING!
2006-09-14 23:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by PaPi X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should both just take some time to cool off. dont bother each other for a while. If you are TRUE friends you will find your way back to eachother.
2006-09-14 23:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by wantme_comegetme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation, but I think it's usually better to take the high road...forgive and apologize.
2006-09-14 23:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sorry, then apologize.
Other than that, I agree - give it time.
Was what you were fighting about worth losing a friend over? Really?
2006-09-14 23:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to do the first move if you want to have your friendship again..
2006-09-14 23:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by saccharineMil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time.
2006-09-14 23:09:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget about her.
2006-09-14 23:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋