My boyfriend/lover is a married man who for some reason tells me he loves me but can't leave his wife. He talks like he is so unhappily married, but stays in the situation. Help me find a way to get over him.
2006-09-14 16:07:05 · 16 answers · asked by alexsmom_302003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is no way to get over him becuase the heart will always be stronger than the mind. I am going through a simular sitauation right now...my boyfriend claims he loves me but is moving 3.5 hours away from me to be with his family and long time friends...the best way I have found to deal with the pain when times get really bad is to rationally talk yourself through it...if it was meant to be it would have worked out...it didn't therefore it wasn't...so no matter how much your hurting now this can't be the end for you there has to be someone out there that your actually meant to have a long time relationship with.
2006-09-14 16:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by NiK* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dam tough situation. I'm sure it was great while it lasted, but you really do need to realize it wasn't true. You know how some men can be to get it.
Try to get over it by hanging out with the girls and not settling for a man that seems to be hiding something. Did you always know of this situation w/ his wife? If so, just learn from it and you hopefully won't get burned again.
There definitely is no magic formula, but time and improving your self esteem.
2006-09-14 23:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by Gino G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you cause you want to forget him
being with him would make youre life so worthless
he does not love you, neither does he love his family he is a selfish man
with those reasons its enough to hate him
but im not telling you to hate him
in order to forget him,.do something keep yourself busy get involved with issues regarding the society and community
adopt a pet
try meeting somebody else through the net(only dont get too serious, do it only for friendship)
go try a new hobby
get away from that place
dont give him any of your contact number and never call him
one way or another he will try to seduce you once again so guard your pride, heart and dignity
go away , find a new job somewhere else, just dont be there where he is
you dont want that kind of mess
fix your life
2006-09-14 23:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember a married man will NEVER EVER divorce/leave his wife especially when he got kids. If he promise heaven and stars to you it's all BULLSHIT. If you still love him and want to continue this affair then don't believe in what he said and promised, just be there when he wants you and you can continue your personal life with other singles. Otherwise if you cannot live with all his lies then leave alone and continue you journey of life.
Good luck.
2006-09-14 23:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by Cathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh see married men dont ever leave their wives..ur just a booty call is all...n it hurts dont it? well it should how could u not care enough bout urself to get mixed up in all that..and dont think for one minute ur the only one bc u aint..they always use the "im unhappy but i cant leave" or " i cant leave my kids" its a lie to get u to keep lettin him hit it..is all..get a clue and get ova it..grow some sense..and find a man who can n will be with u for u and not just a quicky..i mean ur grown so act like it...u need a reality check..u need to get mad n then ull get ova it..i bet if u follow him n watch him ull see how not unhappy he really is with his wife.
2006-09-14 23:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could find the words to help you move on but I don't know what those words would be for you. However, I do think you should find the inner strength to not allow yourself to be subjected to such emotional torment. Also, ask yourself this. Do you really want to be the other person? Don't you deserve more than to be treated like someones sex puppet?
2006-09-14 23:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by CNKCKFIL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Pastor told me once to "let it go" I dont know if you're religious or not but the BEST answer I can give you is to PRAY ON IT. Time doesn't work, Space doesn't help, and Cold Turkey will only make you want more. You have to put your hands in GOD'S hands and let HIM handle it. HE will remove all that is not good and put something or someone else in your life that will of HIS choosing.. "let it go" and Pray on it.
2006-09-14 23:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by J Truth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need is a man detox!!!!
First: Get yourself a breakup buddy. (a girlfriend that will let you have it if you even think about calling him) Talk with her about what you're going through.
Second: Delete him from your cell phone...in fact delete him from your whole house. Everything that reminds you of him needs to go....now!
Don't speak to him, don't talk about him, don't cry over him, go out with your friends, don't even think about him for at least 2 months!!!
It sounds tough, but just do it. There's no other way. Trust me, it works!
2006-09-14 23:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time heals all wounds even a broken heart, but next time don't go for a married man you are just asking for a bad situation
2006-09-14 23:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by bolandalbaby@verizon.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a bad situation.
Naturally, he tells you all the "bad" about his wife, yet he is still with her, and he always will be.
Unfortunately, the bond between the two of you is so strong (on your end) that you cannot break it off.
Stay with him until it fizzles out on it's own. Trust me, it will.
2006-09-14 23:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋