well, I've been dating this guy for 2 months right.. we both have really strong personalities and although he's younger than me (he's 18) he's been trying to manipulate me... Last weekened we had a big fight for nothing, like every weekend we spend together... so he run to talk w/ his friends and they told him he was so into me that he forgot about them.. that nite he went out with them and since then he's distant.. 5 minutes ago i was w/ him on the phone and i tried to found out what he really wants from me... I told him that tomorrow nite i'm going out w/ my friends but he can come if he wants, he said no.. so he said when do u wanna see me, i said on Sat. and he said well i can't 'cause i dont know what my friends r gonna do.. so i told him that I'm first and then his friends!! He wants more space, that's fine, but he can go out w/ them the same out i go out with mine and then we got to see each other! Am i wrong? he says he love me and all that nice things guys say to get a girl!
2006-09-14 16:00:30 · 8 answers · asked by * adri * 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well the guy is young so that is part of it. I've been there. You just have to tell him that it is one thing if he already had plans on Sat when you had told him you wanted to see him but to say I have to see what my friends are doing is basically saying, "if they aren't doing anything cool then I guess I'll hang with you.". That just isn't right. It is rude and disrespectful. Tell him you understand that he needs guy time but that you will not except being placed on the back burner. Stand up for yourself. A guy will only treat you how you allow him to. Don't get stuck in his trap. If he really cares, he will understand but don't except this behavior.
2006-09-14 16:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by choppergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that this relationship is 50 50 and if he thinks its oikay for him he better think its okay for you to or he can leave. and if he does he really didnt love you. You dont want a man who thinks he can do what he wants but makes you feel bad when you do what you want or tell you what you can and cannot do. You alreay have parents you dont need another one.
2006-09-14 16:07:58 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think your wrong at all....its all good to go out with your own friends but you need to do it in conjunction with each other so there is still time to spend together.
i think it is great that you would offer for him to go out with you and your friends is he open to the same....
if he doesnt want you around with his friends then i would be questioning what he is really up to
good luck
2006-09-14 16:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he sucks and u can do much much better i say this cause i care 4 u even though i dont noe u k
2006-09-14 16:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are like rubber-bands. Leave him alone.. He'll come around..
2006-09-14 16:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all that drama after only 2 months of dating? End it..... good luck
2006-09-14 16:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Relax, and don't make him choose between you and his friends. Be flexible, you'll get your time with him, if you aren't a controlling freak.
2006-09-14 16:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh, just leave the poor guy alone.
2006-09-14 16:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋