soo i dont know what to do. my cousions and brother all treat me like ****..and it pisses me off..and i work with my cousion and its worse at work..they make it a point to tell me i have no friends..when i do..but all they do is drink..so i dont hang with them much..and they call me a drop out b/c i quit regular high school and started doing online school..wich they dont think is the same thing..and they make me feel like ****..all i wanna do is cry when they say these things..and even when i try to stick up for myself it dosnt work..and out parents think they joking..or make some excuse for them..they dont know how much it hurts..what can i do..this is bullshit..
2006-09-14 15:29:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The worst thing you can do is to react to their bullcrap,like being mad or sad about it,thats what they expect & want you to do..Once you show them it doesnt bother you they will stop..When you are in control they will sense they are finally out of control of the situation they started & will quit..I know its not easy to control your emotions but cry behind closed doors or scream at the moon,just stay calm & in control,tell them to grow up,get a life,whatever it takes to blow them off at the time it happens okay?Good luck & hope you put yourself first no matter what..=)
2006-09-14 15:38:28 · answer #1 · answered by *toona* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound strange, but that is exactly the kind of thing that spurs many people to success. Even the bible says that people of our own households will be our enemies.
Obviously it is a lot easier to change ourselves and our perception of things than it is to change other people.
Take the pent up frustration and turn it into a success motivator!
Don't respond to the negative comments - that just gives them the desire to continue to hurt you.
Also, on a different note. You may want to consider your friends more closely. The "birds of a feather" saying is still around because it has some truth to it. I have had friends like that, while they may be good people inside, they are destroying themselves and you don't really want to go down with the ship!
Good luck - and i think you are great!
2006-09-14 22:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by extremelyradicalman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you living with your cousin and brother? If I were you, I think I would try and find a different job. At least you wouldn't have to hear the nonsense as much as you currently hear it. Sometimes I think our friends and family belittle us out of jealousy. It sounds like you are trying to better yourself with continuing your education, even if it is online. You aren't the one out drinking and bullying people. Always believe in yourself despite what others say and think. Try your best to succeed!
2006-09-14 22:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by ~aShLeY~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok... what you got is a same problem i have with my sister, but i am sure that if you try really hard and show your real feelings to them and tell them nicely if they can back off. If you cant do that, try telling your parents more seriously. And i am sure you tried those, but try it again. and if that doesnt work, ignore them. sometimes, they annoy you and call you names more if you get mad. if they see you just not caring or even smiling, they would get over it and find another target. tell them its lame to annoy people like that and they are acting like kids. that will piss them off.
2006-09-14 22:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by eugina l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from them as much as you can. Tell the boss at work how they're treating you. I'm pretty sure the boss will have them stop, or better fired. I don't know what else you can do.
2006-09-14 22:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by Samir 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what you are doing. When the put you down they are only doingso because of their own insecurity. Do something with your life that makes you happy, for me it's always been music and believe me artistic people take alot of heat except from kindred spirits.
2006-09-14 22:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Moorglade2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu need to start telling them how you feel, as to at work I would talk with you boss and let them know how your cousin is making you feel at work and that he is harassing you at work and out side of work! see what happens, sorry i cant be more help good luck!
2006-09-14 22:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Just_me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wat i would do is this try to think of something that would make them feel like **** so that way they get to feel the way u feel when they say the things they say to u and if ur parents get involved just tell them that ur doin' the same thing that they're doin' to u. hope this helps u out a little bit. Good Luck!
2006-09-14 22:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are serious about them stopping, and if they don't refuse to speak to them. This can be hard and it will take a lot of self control, but the great thing abou that is you do have the control.
2006-09-14 22:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more they know it bothers you, the longer they will keep it up. Therefore just say "so what?"; it defuses their arguments. At first they will try all the harder to get your goat, but keep up pretending that it doesn't matter, and eventually they'll tire of it.
2006-09-14 22:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by eric l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋