Are they benevolent brotherhoods/sisterhoods that provide communal support and networking? Or are they elitist cliques mainly geared towards partying?
2006-09-14 15:19:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Really superficial if you ask me. All of the fraternity and sorority people at my school are only concerned about each other. If you want to do well in school fraternities can be a distraction. If you go to school to socialize and make friends then fraternities can be for you.
The stereotypes are correct, and I know from personal experience. They have the opportunity to help out in the community and be leaders to their schoolmates but their primary concern is always partying. They keep the same mentality after they graduate. My ex-bf was in one, and although he got a great job after graduation, he has no interest whatsoever in being a well-rounded person. All he ever wants to do is watch tv, play video games or go out with his friends (who were also in his fraternity and who also act the same way he does). He and his friends have no interest at all in simply being aware of things that are going on in the world culturally and politically. Being a well-rounded person to him means having booz, television and sex around at all times.
2006-09-15 05:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by xdtsztr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I oppose, I lost my fiance to drinking and partying at his Fraternity, even though we had a kid together. He wouldn't set a date with me, but willingly "married" the fraternity. 2 weeks of torture in my book, the Fraternity ruined his life. Now, he is wishing he had me...
But me, 8 years of child support, so as long as I have his money I don't care what he does. And just for toture, I have the child support raised every year.
2006-09-14 15:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have a couple on my campus that are strictly community service based and they are really good to join. Other than those few I wouldn't join one if you paid me. It's like you're buying friends and it costs wayyyy too much money. I have plenty of friends that are in sororities and fraternities and I didn't have to pay to have them, and I still get invited to events on campus and off. Depends on the fraternity or sorority.
2006-09-14 16:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by bluecrystalsmile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never participated, though I had a few friends who did. We ended up not keeping in touch with each other.
I *really* recommend Alexandra Robbins book Plegded, the Secret Life of Sororities.... she went undercover as a friend of a few that were going through the process. Also did interviews with people who were no longer members, and who had been members all their lives.... Quite interesting.
http://www.alexandrarobbins.com/pledged/index.asp
2006-09-14 15:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by kaliselenite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are exclusionary. My school didn't have them and promoted a more unified approach to belonging.
Just not my cup of tea.
2006-09-14 15:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by knowledgeisgood 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋