I walked in on them having sex...& now I can't go back in...HELP!!!!!?

Question

I'm a college freshman and it's been about 1 month since I moved into my dorm (classes started 3 weeks ago)...although I really like my roommate (she's a great person) & we get along pretty well, she and her boyfriend drive me mad...
She's from around here while I live about 6 hours & 1/2 away (driving) & he's always staying in our dorm overnight...
When she 1st asked me if he could stay for ONE night, I said yes thinking that she meant ONE night but he ended up staying for a whole week until our RA said something to her...still, I didn't really mind THAT part of his staying...what really bothered me was that they'd have sex w/ me in the room while I was sleeping (but they'd eventually wake me up w/ all the noise & stuff). I still can't believe how careless they are w/ such thing. As though that wasn't enough, they'd stay up all night watching movies (really loud) & I would barely get any sleep & had to get up early for class.

It has been 1 week since he left and today after I came back from my last class (around 8 pm), and SURPRISE! He’s back again! And the worst part is that I walked in on them (for the 2nd time) having sex. I was pretty upset, so I closed the door and headed back out. Now I really don’t want to go back because I’m still upset and don’t really feel like talking to them. I know that I’ll eventually have to face them and this time I want to tell them how I feel. The problem is, I have never confronted anyone about anything and don’t really know what to do or say.
I know it's my room & everything, but I don't know what I should do.
I'm feeling anxious and apprehensive about going back, but I know that I have to sooner or later...
Can you please help me? What should I do?

AND I still have ti finish my homework...

No silly answers, please...

Answer 1

You have to do two things:

1) Report the first two answers here for being stupid point sluts
2) You have to talk to your roommate. No way around it. Tell her they are bothering you

Answer 2

I know it's hard confronting a person about things but it's your room so you have a right to say how you feel. I would just go back in and talk to the roommate alone. Pull her aside and tell her how you feel about the situation. Just be honest with her. Tell her that you don't like her boyfriend spending the night and that their having sex while you're in the room is very rude. Ask her kindly to stop doing that and if she continues, then report her and request to be moved to another room.

Answer 3

I've never went to a 4 year university, so I never stayed in a dorm, but I would try talking to your RA about it. Ask her to talk to your roommate about it, that would take the pressure off of you. That is probably one thing you could do, OR you could put in for a new room. I'm sure that if you explained to the school what's going on, they'll let you move to a different room.

Answer 4

Your parents are paying for that dorm room too, so you shouldn't feel like you can't come back into YOUR room. If anything, SHE needs to leave since she is the issue. Talk to her and let her know that you do not feel comfortable with all of the things that are going on.

Answer 5

I had to switch dorm rooms when I was in college because even though I got along ok with my roommate, her friends would bang on the door in the middle of the night and be really rowdy. She told them not to, because she had back problems she had to take some pretty strong medicine for at night, but they kept doing it. One night, the lot of the got really drunk or high, broke the door to get in and started jumping up and down on my bed to get to her, since she was on the top bunk. I pretended to be sleeping hoping they'd stop and at least leave me alone, but one guy sat on the bed next to me and grabbed my butt. My room mate through a fit and made them leave, but that was the last straw. I reported them to the RA, and he told me that I had to confront them myself and try to resolve the issue on my own before he would mediate, like I'm really going to confront someone who'd sexually harrassed me in my bed in the middle of the night, broke the door and ruinned my mattress. Their answer was to make me switch rooms with one of my roommate's friends, like I was the problem. But, my new room mate was really cool and very considerate, which made my life so much less stressful.

You're roommate's behavior is making you uncomfortable, stressing you out, and keeping you up when you should be sleeping or studying. Either she needs to stop, or you need to find a new roommate. Your education shouldn't suffer for her love life, since your studies are supposed to be the reason you're there.

Answer 6

You've already been more than agreeable, and your roommate and her bf have taken advantage of you. Now it's time to do something about it, to protect your health and your expensive, irreplaceable education. Talk to your roommate by herself, telling her everything you just said here. Tell her if she won't give you the respect you need and deserve, you'll have to talk to the RA--and then follow through with it!
Best of luck!

Answer 7

Strap on your balls and confront your selfish roommate. Tell her exactly how you feel. If that doesn't work, try to get a room change. If that doesn't work, take a picture of them having sex and post it on the internet! ;)

Answer 8

Talk to your RA or your housing staff. You pay tuition, room and board, etc. You have rights. You don't have to confront them, go through the chain of command. It is affecting YOUR education. Don't worry about stepping on toes, she is disrespecting you. Don't stand for it.

Answer 9

Tell them what you want and let them know you meant it.That part of having bf is beyond normal so could they please be civilised to have sex in private.Tell your landlady or some elder you can trust about thier behaviour.good luck to you.

Answer 10

first finish your homework and then be honest with your room mate tell her you think that she is being very inconsiderate.that something should be private.