well she talks to me how she wants to kill herself and that she cant stop crying and when i ask her why, she says that she doesnt know. okay.. and i have no idea what to do because i dont know the reason she's mad at herself. and she's saying that she is going to leave next year to a country and doesnt want to come back because life sucks. It was also weird because she deleted everything from her Myspace, and she changed her email to mad_*****@hotmail.com. and she took this really weird picture of her and it looked freaky. anyways, she asks me the question how to make sadness become happy ?..What should i do ??
2006-09-14 14:54:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok welll first u neeedd to take her out to have fun to just show her life is good and that u need her b/c without her u won't be u and that she is fine she the best oerson to hang out with and life may get better just give it a chance some guy may be in love with her or might become in love with her she needs to hae some fun and fast or your friend might just do it i hope she doesn't b/c that would just suck and if she doesn't try to be with her every second possible
2006-09-14 14:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there was a simple way to do it, then everyone would be very happy. I know of a way, and it's not very hard, but there's a catch. She really has to want to be happy, and she has to believe it will work.
This is going to sound a little weird but it does work. It just takes faith. Take her where she can see something beautiful. It can be anything, like a clear view of the night sky, a nice botanical garden, or even a stuffed toy she's had since she was young. It's good if the thing she is looking at is not moving (at least not much, so young animals like puppies are not the best idea) ans she should be comfortable where she's looking from so that she doesn't need to move for a long time. Then tell her to look at that beautiful object closely and try to find exactly what is it that makes it beautiful. Get her to tell you those features out loud. If it's a stuffed toy, she should be saying things like, "I love the beatiful dark eyes that are brown on the outside and have these giand black pupils. I love the way the ears are floppy so that you can easily raise them over her head. I love how her paw is so small i can put it into the pit of my hand..." That sort of thing. Tell her to look deeper and deeper. She is of course only looking at the surface, but at some point she should begin to notice some "deeper" features. At some point she may even become poetic.
This is a way of reinventing what love means, and it is a great way of becoming happy. But you need to have faith. You have to want to love that object with all your heart. You have to be able to love it so much that you almost fall into tears. But they will be tears of joy, not sorrow.
I hope you believe me on this one and you tell that to your friend. I wish her the best of luck. I hope she discovers the way to make herself happy. Once she does, nothing will ever be able to crush her spirit again. You are a great friend for being so loving.
2006-09-14 23:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is her way of reaching out, and feeling like she is making a change in herself. It lets her feel like she is controlling her destiny in the face of hard times.
Heres what to do:
1) Talk to her. Be supportive.
2) Suggest councilling. I used a councellor, and its great. It gives you a chance to talk to someone about anything, no matter how dark and evil. And what you tell them will never leave that room. It is really relieving. PLUS they are trained for many years specifically on how to deal with that type of thing.
3) If all else fails, and she won't try councilling, go with her and tell her family doctor together. There are excellent medications that you can take for a month or two and will help her relax, get back on track, and best of all really don't leave you feeling wierd or drugged. I was on effexor for 2 months. HUGE difference. I basically just began taking joy in things that shouild be making me happy.
GOOD LUCK! If all else fails, ask your own family doctor what to do, or talk to a school councellor for advice. Again, any doctor or councellor can't share info, so you are free to do what you want with their advice and nowone will ever know.
2006-09-14 22:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by cruachanmusic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to the girls parents and express your concern. This is not something to be taken lightly, this is very serious. Your friend make suffer from depression. You need to get her help before it gets worse. You need to explain to her, that shes not the only person who feels like that. Talk to her parents and find a doc. who speaclizes in depression. and she might need medication for it. This is not a bad thing a LARGE amoutn of people in the world suffer from depression it is easily fixed. The battle is just finding the right medication that works for her. Listen to her and give her advice but dont put her down cuz that wont help her and will only make her feel worse. Remind her that u care very much about her and want her to get help, and be happy.
2006-09-14 22:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to get her to get counseling. She needs to tell her parents. If she won't YOU NEED TO. Go with her when she talks to them if she wants you to. But you have to make sure you get through to an adult. Has this been a recent thing? Do you know of anything that has happened? Is she doing illicit drugs? Just some considerations....
2006-09-14 22:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by class act 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa... psycho. How about talk to her, make her dump all her feelings at you, make her say WHY she wants to kill herself. Be kind, and don't say anything stupid. Then... make jokes, tell about the good parts about her, how she used to be and how everyone loved her that way. Make a party, invite her over and surprise her with all sorts of things. Always smile, you know ... those sorta stuff.
If that doesn't work, take her to a therapist. Honestly, that's no joke.
2006-09-14 21:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure if you are still in school but I would get a teacher or a guidance counselor involved...they will have the necessary knowledge about how you all can do help her! I know that you might think that you are betraying your friend by telling her secret but you will not regret it!
2006-09-14 22:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Travel_Fan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counsling, prayer, good friends and family. Sounds like she needs to find out why she is so depressed. If you figure that out you can make her happy again.
2006-09-14 21:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend needs to learn how to love herself. Tell her to pray on it. because her life is not hers to take. also tell her sadness becomes happiness in time
2006-09-14 22:06:49 · answer #9 · answered by s s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to scream in a quite place and have icecream laydown watch t.v and get her a massage she is tense about something and hope she tells you all you have to do is ask especially iif she is your best bud
2006-09-14 21:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by haley g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋