A friend of mine is changing......?

Question

I am worried about a friend of mine. 4 months ago, he got together with a new gf. Since that time he has changed alot, and he is worrying me. All he can talk about is her, and how perfect she is, and how he couldnt live without her, etc. I AM NOT JEALOUS, he is just a friend, but not only am i afraid he's going to get hurt (after he broke up with one of his past gf's, he almost comitted suicide), but i also feel that our friendship is suffering. I know that lately, all he cares about and all he thinks about is her. He has no concern left for me at all. This hurts me alot, im afraid im going to lose a friend. his attitude toward me has completely changed. what should i do? i'm too afraid to talk to him, because he thinks i like him and that im jealous. i dont want a fight. PLZ HELP!!!
THANK YOU!!!

Answer 1

Probably not much you can do. Sounds like he wears his heart on his sleeve, and just gives himself away too easily.
You can talk to him, but he may just get angry. If that's the case, then what can you do? He's going to choose to be angry. So let him be with his gf, wish him the best, and let him know that you'll always be there for him as his friend. For whenever he feels like he needs a friend again.
Hurts to let someone go. Especially friends. But you can't make someone see something that they choose to be blind to. Good luck to the both of you!

Answer 2

Relationships always change people dramatically. It's hard for the friends who are left behind but it's reality. Practically everyone will go through the initial stage of being head over heels about a person when they first start a relationship and all you can do is sit tight and wait it out.

It's highly likely that your friendship will also change dramatically because of it. I'm sorry to say this but I lost my best friend to a relationship she's having right now and I've changed a lot because of it such that we won't be best friends again even if she breaks up with him. We are still friends though and if/when she does become single again I will still be there for her but we're no longer close.

You do have to talk to him I think, if not just because he's hurting you a lot by his actions towards you. You can't help it if he thinks you like him and are jealous but you can fight that by how you act towards his girlfriend.

You say he has no concern left for you at all and yet it sounds like he still talks to you and spends time with you even if all he talks about is his girlfriend. That's gotta count for something.

Don't be afraid that he'll get hurt because relationships do hurt people and it's just something we all have to deal with. All you can do is stand by him and support him and hopefully he'll see what a great friend you are.

Answer 3

You have to just be there for him. Because when he gets hurt, he will need someone to be there for him. You seem to be a real true friend. Have you tried telling him how you feel. However, be careful, you do not want to say the wrong thing and totally push him away. Believe me, he will need you. Friends such as you are hard to find.

Answer 4

Yeah that can be a problem, I've had friends do the same, the only thing to do is stand by until the lust runs out and if its for real then he will include his friends again in his life, right now do not get involved, hope it works out for both of ya!

Answer 5

you could tell her the way you sense approximately what she has performed for you and your daughter and merely be there for her each and every time she desires you. that is confusing to pay back while somebody does something that great for you via fact those forms of issues are invaluable yet as long as you tutor her your appreciation i think of which would be sufficient for her. She feels like a great lady. probable you will pay it forward and help somebody out which you recognize in a huge way and by ability of doing so which you would be able to tell your chum that she is your concept for being solid to human beings and helping those in pick. :-)

Answer 6

Keep in touch. Check on him daily. Be sure to notice signs of problems in the relationship or unhappiness on his part. In the end, all you can do is hope for the best and be there for your frind if something goes wrong.

Answer 7

I would try to keep him as a friend and if he chooses not to be your friend anymore, that's his loss. You never said how old this guy is. Sooner or later she's gonna drive him nuts and he might end up breaking up with her. That's when you want to be there for him as a friend. Good luck!

Answer 8

I HAD THAT SITUATION WITH MY BEST FRIED BEFORE WHO IS A GUY. HE TOTALLY LET THIS CHIC (THAT I INTRODUCED HIM TO) COME BETWEEN US. SHE MADE UP ALL KINDS OF LIES AND EVEN USED INFORMATION (THAT I HAD SHARED WITH HER BEFORE MEETING HIM) AGAINST ME TO RUIN OUR FRIENDSHIP. EVENTUALLY, HE SAW HER FOR WHAT SHE REALLY WAS AND CUT HER COMPLETELY OFF. SHE STILL CALLS HIM AND TRIES TO COME AROUND, BUT WE ARE THE BEST OF FRIENDS AGAIN. HE VOWED NEVER TO LET ANYONE ELSE, MALE OR FEMALE COME BETWEEN US. AT THE END OF THE DAY, I'M ALL THAT HE HAS AND VICE VERSA.

I PROMISE YOU WHEN EVERYTHING UNFOLDS, YOU JUST HAVE TO HAVE YOUR SHOULDER READY FOR HIM TO CRY ON. AND...NO, I DON'T THINK THAT YOU'RE JEALOUS AND I HATE WHEN PEOPLE SAY THAT JUST BECAUSE YOU BEST FRIEND IS A MALE AND YOU DON'T THINK THAT THEIR GIRLFRIEND HAS THEIR BEST INTEREST AT HEART...IT JUST BURNS ME UP!

Answer 9

just be there for your friend. he is going to do what he is going to do ~ maybe he is obsessive initially when in a new relationship. people do change ~ and not always for the better.

Answer 10

Step back and give him time and when he needs you be there as a true friend would be.