at first he did not even offer to help, he sen t me a text like (wow that sucks) then finally he was like he could help me with a "loan", one: I am in a position right now were I am closing on a mortgage and two: he make waaaaay more then me, he gave me a lil bit, and acted like and asshole, and even took a poll in his ofice if he should give me the money or not. I never wanted to ask for money from him, but do you think I was wrong for accepting it? Even though I work like hell (two jobs and school) and am saving for my condo, it is going to take a life time for me to pay him back. Do you think he should have just given me the money if he had it? Or am I wrong? I am so pissed at him, and am giving the money back, should I keep it and pay him back (cuz I really do not have it right now) or should I just struggle on my own?
2006-09-14 14:43:25 · 14 answers · asked by can j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry but he sounds like an a**. How long have you been seeing him? He sounds like the type that likes to humiliate people.
I may be the wrong person to answer this question because I have too much pride and I would not have stood there listening to all his s*#@. I would have said "never mind and thanks for nothing" and I would have struggled and figured out how I can do it on my own .
Let me ask you, Do you the same by making a poll when he wants a piece of A**? That's just fowl. I would understand if he said something like "Look, I'm going to lend it to you 'cause I know you really need it, but I really need for you to pay me back". And if necessary, asked you to sign a promissory note. But to actually bring his co-workers into this and make an already embarrassing situation more embarrassing. Like it wasn't hard enough for you to go and ask him for the loan in the first place. If I were you, I would return the money but. that is only me......I'm not saying do that. But if you do stay with the money, try to pay it back the second you cash your next check, even if it means not eating for the next week and after that I would never ask him for anything. I would also re-evaluate the relationship and really think if you want to continue being with a person like that. I'm not saying that every time that you ask for money he should give it to you, but D @ M N!!!!!!!! It was an emergency and you do need your car, it's not like you were asking for the money to go out shopping with your girlfriends, WTF!!!!!
If you do decide to keep the money and pay him back at a later time remember to get receipts from him or atleast make him sign and date a paper and the amount you gave for each payment and save it, so like that he can't flip the script on you later and take you to court saying you didn't pay him or gave him a smaller amount than you actually did. And don't bother asking him for anything ever again. With a boyfriend like that you don't need enemies. Good luck!
2006-09-14 15:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by hilda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think if he really cared about you he wouldn't have acted like a horses behind. I think he should have just given you the money and not considered it a loan, assuming you guys have been together a while and are serious. If I were you I would probably give the money back and struggle on your own. I know that sounds harsh, but do you really want to owe money to someone that behaves so immaturely? Come on girl! He took a poll at his office to see if he should loan you the money! I think that was very disrespectful of him not to mention degrading. Something like that should have just been kept between the two of you as it wasn't anybody else's business. I would also talk to him about how you feel about this (you sound like you're very upset). If he blows you off then I say so long loser. Sorry :( (Speaking from personal experience: Before my husband and I were engaged we were in a car wreck. He had a friend do the work on my car, and for payment he traded an old car that he (my husband) had. NO STRINGS ATTACHED! He never asked me for anything for that car.) So, keep in mind that if he really cares about you, he won't treat you that way.
2006-09-14 14:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong to accept help but obviously if the other person is acting like a jerk then maybe you shouldnt have accepted the money from him. If hes your friend then hes not a very good friend if he is making such a big deal on helping you out. You should just pay him back as soon as possible and never talk to him
2006-09-14 14:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, give him the money back. Save yourself the grief. I know you have two jobs and school, but you know what he might be the type of guy that'll demand "interest" or something. Did you use the money, yet? If not, just give it back. Give it back in front of witnesses or give it back in the form of a check. Put it in writing that you gave this money back. Because if you ever break up (I'm sorry I watch "Judge Judy" too much), he's going to say you never paid him back and then you'll have to pay him back twice.
2006-09-14 14:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by darkhunterfan65 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he sounds like an geniune loser, but I'm sure no matter what is said here you are going to be with him, SOOOO I say just take the money do what you have to and make sure you pay him back quickly. If he were a real man and considered himself your boyfriend I'm not sure why he wouldn't be able to give it to you as a gift if he makes sooo much money. I definitely think you need to question his loyalty to you if he first wasn't gonna help and then had to take a poll to see if he should. Sorry but that doesn't sound like a boyfriend to me.
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2016-10-16 00:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That Poll thing was cold but funny....but really all this depends on where u are in your relationship with him...If you been with him for a year of two then he is savage for acting like this....but if you guys havnt been that long together then he realy shouldnt feel obligated to help you. escpecially when it dont sound like u could pay him back...keep the money because there is no interest.
2006-09-14 18:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me i would not have taken a loan from him.. because for the simple reason it always causes problem.. to bad the fool couldn't have at least helped you with your car trouble..
dump him and pay him back as fast as you can.. Borrowing money from someone is the fastest way to find out what kind of a person they really are and you found out.. so get rid of him as fast as you can.. he should have helped you out with out calling it a loan if he reallly cared for you. but now you know he don't so move on ..
2006-09-14 14:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend..you are struggling on your own....and money has nothing to do with it.
I too took a poll at my office...and the survey says....He's a loser!
Give him back the money....take the bus..and cut your losses.
Believe me you'll be better off without people like that in your life.
2006-09-14 15:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by sctrgrl2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that he was so rude, a real man would be nice about it at least.... I am sorry to say I, myself would rather eat dirt than have to ask for money from someone who acted like that , if you didn't know he was going to be such a jerk you probably wouldn't have done it though. I would have called a family member or friend and hung up on him.
2006-09-14 14:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by T agent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋