I know this sounds stupid, but i'm shy and get uncomfortable around boys. mostly, i ignore guys and when i talk to them, i start saying and doing stupid things that embarrasses me... how can i get myself to relax? (btw, please don't say "be urself." it doesn't help at all)
2006-09-14 14:11:32 · 7 answers · asked by Alyssy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know what you mean I still get like that. Try focusing on something else when you are talking to that person instead of thinking in your mind what they are thinking about you. I read that 'SHY' people are shy because they are so focused on the judgements that other people are making about them that it makes them nervous, which is the definition of a shy person. I also read that shy people are the worse listeners sometimes because of that same reason.
I am a little shy, used to be much worse and I find that it helps to put a smile on your face, act as friendly as possible and DO NOT think about what they are thinking about you, focus on something else and FAKE your confidence, the way you stand, the way you look at the person, eye contact and a friendly smile tricks your brain into thinking you are confident which gets rid of those rosey cheeks and embarrassing looks and if you ever find that you may have said something embarrassing - laugh and keep smiling that way it will look like you are confident and can laugh at yourself. Looking bashful and embarrassed can be cute and works sometimes but you want to exude confidence right!? Good luck. I feel your pain.
2006-09-14 14:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that makes two of us! I guess you just gotta deal with it. Hang around boys more than girls. It might be awkward at first, but after a while, you'll feel totally comfortable around boys. It's like the start of a new school year. The first few days are always all about learning everyone's names. So it makes everyone feel comfortable when around each other. Think of it as that.
2006-09-14 21:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. that's tough. If being yourself don't help, try just thinking possitive. I had the same problem. The boys have some thoughts just like your's, so start out talking to a friend of your dad's or mom's that's male and work your way out of the family. That's what i did.
2006-09-14 21:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is practice. The more you force yourself to talk in front of guys, the better off you'll be. Believe me.
2006-09-14 21:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
force yourself to be around boys more often, even if it is embarrassing at first. the more you are around them, the more comfortable you will get around them. :)
2006-09-14 21:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
envision beforehand what you would talk about, think of 'chill' ways to respond to all kinds of scenarios...pretty soon you'll be talking and responding at a level of smoothness you did not think your capable of
2006-09-14 21:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have gotta be more outgoing.
2006-09-14 21:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by maggotier 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋