I met this guy online and we been seeing each other for some time now, we talk on the phone each day we see each other about once a week, he seems to be a really nice guy. The thing is I am married and have kids but we are having trouble, basically I am with my husband for financial reasons and the kids. In the middle of all this I met this guy and he knows about my situtaion etc. the problem is yesterday when we met for lunch he gets a phone call from some girl who he says his friend has given his number to her thinking he is single and looking, meanwhile he did talk to this girl casually I guess answered her questions whatever while me sitting there. When I asked him he said it's nothing his friend gave her the number so he didn't know and i shouldn't take it serious. Now I m confused ?? what should I do ??
2006-09-14 13:56:10 · 8 answers · asked by sim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Give your boyfriend the benefit of your doubt. You will know in due time if he really is true to you.
Meanwhile, what you should be concerned about the most is you and your family. I'm sure that if your husband finds about your extra-marital affair, he will really get angry and may even get a divorce. Now, if that happens, are you ready to take good care of your kids? Are you financially capable to do that? Have you asked your boyfriend if he is willing to help you support your children when you leave your husband for him? And, don't you feel guilty for cheating on your husband who supports your kids?
Why don't you do some soul-searching escapades? Have you asked yourself what made you love your husband less? If you have, have you talked to him about your waning feelings for him? Because I'm sure that if he really loves you and your kids, he will be willing to have a compromise with you just to save your family from breaking off.
If after your soul-searching you find out that you really have lost all your love for your husband and there's no way for it to return, then, it's really far better for you to get a divorce from him before you continue having an illicit relationship with your boyfriend.
I believe that you will not want your kids to lose their respect for you or to be exposed to your marital problems which won't go. So it's really better for them not to know what you are doing right now. Even your friends, relatives, or neighbors who may learn about your affair will tag you as a cheater which is a negative stigma that may affect your family's reputation. Kids need to be spared from ridicule and sarcasm, you should know that, more especially those coming from gossips and criticisms about their family background.
To sum it all up, you better settle first your marital problem. Then if living with your husband is hopeless, get a divorce before you continue your relationship with your boyfriend. Fair enough for your family members. At least, you can move on without any feeling of guilt that you caused your family's downfall. Good luck.
2006-09-14 14:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So...you cheated on your husband and now your new boyfriend has cheated on you? Irony.
Dump him. Tell your husband about what you did, and move on. You don't need to be cheating. "I am with my husband for financial reasons and the kids" meaning you fell out of love, right? Are you even trying to make it work?
Take a look at your CURRENT relationship. Cheating will tear about your kids, and even if you're staying with your husband for fiancial reason, you need to stay faithful to him until you divorce. Even if it's just for the kids, it needs to be done.
2006-09-14 21:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be with your husband anymore, get a divorce and move on. Finish one relationship before starting another one. No wonder you're confused!
2006-09-14 21:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because youre married, he feels you have no come back in saying he cant see others.....and well he's right. If you want him, leave your husband and be with him, if you dont want him full time, then deal with the fact that he'll be a user much like yourself.
2006-09-14 21:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by Aussieblonde -bundy'd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay ask a 6th grader look if you LOVE you HUSBAND then stay with him don't let your husband go this guy that you meet he propuly has a GIRLFRIEND and he just want's to be friends. Ask them not a person that you don't know.
2006-09-14 21:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by ?HOTTIE? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
. Don't give up your husband just forget this guy and move on.It happens all the time a on line infatuation
2006-09-14 20:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by cin_ann_43 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK....think about it...you are in a relationship...and you are jealous because he talked to another girl....GROW UP!! You need to decide what and who you want and get it done...how can you expect him to be only with you when you aren't only with him...I wish you luck...
2006-09-14 21:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by lissad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all u shouldn't b wit him b cause u r married. that's jus like ur cheatin on ur husband. u shouldn't even care that he's talkin to another woman b cause u r not his woman or his wife. so u should jus move on
2006-09-14 21:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by LaTasha A 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋