How would you feel if you found out your ex-boyfriend turns out to be bisexual
2006-09-14 13:52:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Upset at first, but then at least it wasn't while you were together. My first bf dumped me the week before we were to get married because he was gay. I didn't even question why we never had sex, I thought it was because we were both religious. Then things started to add up and I realized that when his friends spent the night and slept in his room they were doing it. It hurt, gave me a complex for awhile. But I got over it and several years later we are good friends again and he always gives me the best clothing advice! But my feeling is your ex is still trying to decide if he really wants the pressure and judgment from family and friends and really he's gay. Not trying to burst your bubble, but at least you can be a supportive person and help him realize that he should just make up his mind and be one way or the other. Not fair to anyone. But don't worry you didn't do it. The feelings were already there. Now you should have a lot of questions answered about why he did certain things and why he didn't. I'm sure the more you think about it, the more you will realize that you knew all along and deep down you didn't want to add up 2+2. That's how I felt.
2006-09-14 14:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by DispatchGirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you had an honest relationship with him then it should not matter what is sexual orientation is now. If you feel that he was not totally honest with you then think about whether your actions showed you to be a receptive and understanding person who could receive the news with maturity and without anger. I don’t think that he held back information out of malice.
It would take some time for me to understand and accept the fact that my ex is bisexual but I’m sure I would be OK with it.
2006-09-14 13:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jack Spam 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
...SHOCKER THAT I NEVER KNEW IN THE FIRST PLACE!!! But i wouldn't hold it against him. It would only make me...selfish, self-centered...blah blah blah. But it would. It shows that there wasn't enough trust to come out...key word? EX-boyfriend. There are things in life that will come at you and you won't like. Think about the things you've done and made other peopel upset...you may have not have expected that get such a reaction...but you did anyways...(this is just to put yourself in that person's shoes in case you feel HURT that this is the truth behind this persons face)
2006-09-14 13:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by LadyD 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think, "Hmm...I wonder why I never suspected it." Then I would move on. Why let it bother you? You were just boyfriend and girlfriend. If it was your ex-husband, I'd be pretty weirded out by it, but he's not, so let it go.
The fact that he is attracted to men as well as women doesn't reflect on you at all, if that's what seems weird to you. It's not because you weren't enough of a woman for him to be totally heterosexual, it's just that he finds some men attractive, too.
Let it go and be happy!
2006-09-14 13:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by J B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't feel too bad. I wouldn't want a relationship with him, however. I just don't seem to like sleeping with bisexuals because they have been with women and I just don't have a thing for women.
2006-09-14 13:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by Caribbean Blue 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
it'll be kinda kool cause then we can check guys out together but at the same time weird cause i mean u use to go out with him...but i wouldn't worry about i mean he's your ex so why worry
2006-09-14 13:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should support him in whatever path he has chosen in life. Its so great that he is comfortable enough to share that info with you, don't pass judgement and break the bonds of trust that you share.
2006-09-14 13:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
um he's ur ex?? who cares let him live his life so what if he's bisexual big deal (unless u made him that way then thats a different story lol)
2006-09-14 13:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by Cathy V 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he did not tell you something about himself as important as him being bisexual he will keep other important things from you. Drop him now and get tested for AIDS ( if you have had unprotected sex with him ).
2006-09-14 14:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by d b 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It wouldn't bother me. The exes I do talk to I'm friends with and I don't care about stuff like that. And the guys I don't talk to, well, I don't care.
2006-09-14 13:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by kameka 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋