Is it just me?

Question

or are a lot of your friends going through a divorce?

I have had three great friends in the last two months tell me this. It's tough for me to hear and just saddens me.

Answer 1

Yes I guess it is sad, however I think it would be sadder to be or stay in a relationship if you were not happy. Lots of people do that also. Its sad on the person who has said the vows and are sticking to what they promised for the sole purpose of kids or other family members. Some that get into the "fairy tale" of marriage learn its not all fun and games and playing house isnt the most wonderful thing they thought it would be. People change, situations change and sometimes you give and give and give and never take anything and you just get tired of giving. So.. I can see both sides of the fence. It really depends on each situation.

Answer 2

It saddens me too because I am on the verge of that happening to me too after 12+ years of marriage. (see my 360 blog). It is because women are no longer putting up with our crap anymore. There used to be a time when women would stay in a bad marriage because of the (1) marriage vows, (2) the stigma from family and friends, (3) finances. Now,, family and friends understand that women should get out of a marriage that isn't going right. Women now have good jobs and can support themselves. Women also understand that there are other "good" men out there who will treat them like they want to be treated. Of course there are the exceptions like myself, I believe that I am a good man and I just got lazy and did not practice what I should have. I wish every married couple would live each day like the days were when they got married then there would never be divorced couples.

Answer 3

No. A lot of my friends aren't married and the ones that are, arestill together. I think that people rather run from something than to face them head on. You have to comprimise to agree about something. If every couple can talk like they did when they were dating I think that the divorce rate would be lower. There's so many things that can lead your partner ashray, and if he/she doesn't fight the temptation the guilt alone is cause for divorce in some cases. (I've had friends who thought about getting married and decided not to for the same reason).

Answer 4

Being in a committed relationship myself, it saddens me to hear about divorce and breakups, too. I don't even like to hear country music songs about the subject! Be strong, and don't let it happen to you.

Answer 5

It goes in cycles. Most of mine went through divorces in their late 30's and early 40's. Now we are in our 50's and most have remarried. They seem a lot happier now. The children are all grown and out of the house so they have time to spend with the new husband.

Answer 6

It saddens me as well. I believe there will come a time when people will no longer get married. They will look at it and say "What the heck!" "It does not last why try?"

Answer 7

The problem is that people get married without actually really knowing the other person, or for the wrong reasons (pregnant, etc.), or their expectations are too high, etc. People just don't think anymore. I hear so many people say "I found out after we got married that (insert crazy thing here)". If you really knew the person, that wouldn't happen. bleh

Answer 8

I believe the divorce rate in some areas are 50%. It is not you and yes it is extremely sad.

Answer 9

you do know that half of all marriages end in divorce, right? Yes there are a lot of people splitting lately tho.

Answer 10

all but 2 couples in my circle of friends are still married........50% of marraige ends in divorce, just the way it is!