..i dated this guy for a month and i found him messaging some other girl calling her pretty and hott and taht he wished that he could date her but he has a gf so he cant. and i got realy mad at him for doing that and he still kept doing it until i msged that girl. and for some reason, someone told him that i have another boyfriend, Which i dont, so i told him that and he believed that i didnt, but when i broke up with him he kept shoving it to my face and he shouted at me not to talk to him again. Is it wrong of me to get mad at him ?
2006-09-14 13:33:34 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No it's not wrong of you to get mad at him? He isn't respecting you by messaging another girl and telling her that she's hot and that he can't date her because he already has a g/f.
You deserve better treatment than that. Get rid of the jerk.
2006-09-14 13:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I was in a situation like that, and you know what happened? I got dumped. The guy lasted with her for a year, after dating me for only 4 months and finally officially asking me to be his girlfriend which only lasted 2 weeks. It's a waste of time honey. They always say, there's plenty of fish in the sea. So true. But you will only see that once you're in a serious relationship. But it's true...he's just a very small fish that didn't get caught on the hook...let him get away. You won't lose anything...It wasn't your mistake to get mad...it just shows you're human...you reacted...and that's good. If you would've let it just pass, you would've been oblivious...but you weren't. When you get a job if you already don't...you'll meet so many people...and it is a very small world...you'd be surprised...just how small it really is. (BUT STILL A VERY BIG SEA**) lol. Him shoving that in your face is an excuse that he wanted to end it easier. Him saying that he HAD a girlfriend...showed his loyalty...to you. But still...sooner or later he would've gave in if that girl never gave up. Because people want what they can't have. Mourn him for a while...(yes MOURN) if you really liked him...then...you'll be happy...after all. he's the one that lost you, because you did nothing wrong...Good luck, and take care.!!
2006-09-14 13:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by LadyD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definetly dont think you are wrong for getting mad. He should have not been doing that especially more than once. If you have been only dating for a month I think you should just move on. This guy sounds like a waste of time.
2006-09-14 13:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by TrueLibra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope u should be mad at him. You did nothing wrong and he didu r the victim soto speak he just gets mad at you to make himself feel better for being a idiot and losing you. So dont feel bad just move on and stay away from guys like him. Hope this helps
2006-09-14 13:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by Errol A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sweetie, you're definitely not wrong, but I don't think he is, either. Sounds to me like you two wanted different things from the rel'ship. You wanted a bit more than he did, and he just wanted to be a player. Now you each know where the other one is coming from, so no hard feeings.
2006-09-14 13:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have acted prematurely, but hold on let me consult some outside sources.
It is very right for you to be mad at him. If he heard rumors on you, he should have come back to you and asked you about it. Trust is the foundation for any relationship and if he didn't trust you, you were not wrong to be mad at him, or to dump him. He is very petty and if that is how he is going to react to a rumor, he is not worth your time or your heart.
2006-09-14 13:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by Shanigirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it was wrong for him to do that behind your back. Confronting him would be right. Don't feel bad that you are mad at him though! He's the one that should be yelled at, not you. So just tell him to grow up and leave you alone.
2006-09-14 13:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by rocksinger4ever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, BECAUSE I WOULD BE UPSET TOO. YOU ALL REALLY JUST NEED TO LEARN HOW TO TRUST EACH OTHER AND KEEP OTHERS OUT OF YOUR BUSINESS. STOP BELIEVING ALL OF THE HE- SAID, SHE- SAID B.S. AND GET TO THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM. IF IT'S TRUST THEN ADDRESS IT. IF IT'S INFIDELITY, THEN ADDRESS IT. WHATEVER THE PROBLEM IS, YOU NEED TO GET WITH HIM AND DISCUSS IT BECAUSE ALL OF THE SHOUTING IS VERY IMMATURE AND IT'S NOT ACCOMPLISHING ANYTHING.
IF YOU WANT TO MAKE IT WORK, TALK TO HIM, IF NOT THEN FIND SOMEONE THAT WILL APPRECIATE YOU AND LOVE YOU FOR THE BEAUTIFUL PERSON THAT YOU ARE. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS.
2006-09-14 13:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by CHASE_ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want a boyfriend that has no respect for you cause if he did he wouldn't have been sending messages to another girl let him go find someone else who will be there for you only you and don't play games good luck
2006-09-14 13:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not. he is just trying to turn this on u cause he got caught and doesnt want to be the guilty one. u dont ever have to msg another woman, if u have a good guy this wouldnt happen.
2006-09-14 13:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by psychpath64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋