2006-09-14 13:29:29 · 26 answers · asked by tnkster71 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the difference is only one of you is in love and the other is being used.
In your case, you are in love and you know you are being used, but you are afraid to move on, because either way you will be the one dumped, because you know she don't care and you, by now enjoy being that door mat.
Stupid is keeping you there and fear wont let you leave
2006-09-14 13:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by WOODSAK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in love is where you care for the other, and they care for you. It's the old give and take here. Being a door mat is where they use you, taking what they can and giving nothing in return. Bring it up, tell this person how you feel. They may not notice that they are making you feel this way. If they are using you, I'd leave the relationship. It is unhealthy for you, emotionally, as well as the other person. Personally, I'd rather be in love.
2006-09-14 20:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by Shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being is love as they say is a choice to care for them and give your heart to them without asking for anything in return. Being a door mat is when the other person takes advantage of you and your feelings. If this is the case, run very far and do not look back!
2006-09-14 20:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by poet_by_nature 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in love you cant picture your life without that person. You hate being away from them, and you would do anything for them;even give them your life. Being a door mat to me is being a booty call. They only call you when they need something, like some action.
2006-09-14 20:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by heatherlynn55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is looking through another persons point of veiw. ask your friend or family that see your situation, someone you trust that would tell you for your own good. the chances are that the realationship that you think is the one could be the door mat you don't want to live. but hay, some people love being the door mat. I wouldn't want to be the doormat for a chick, I mean I want her to direspect me. hit me up w/ more info through e-mail or im maybe I could be more of a service to you.
2006-09-14 20:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by Patient NightShade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are two completely different issues. I know people who are door mats for everyone they meet, and plenty of people who can fall in love while retaining their emotional and spiritual Independence.
Becoming a doormat to someone for the 'sake of love' is something that teenagers do because they are emotionally and sexually immature. Some people just never grow out of it.
2006-09-14 21:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by burpolicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be in love, but you should definately draw the line when you begin feeling like a doormat. If that is what is happening to you, you need to begin setting boundaries when it comes to someone else walking all over you. It is called self-respect and everyone should have it and deserve it. When someone lets us walk all over them, we soon lose respect for that person as obviously they don't respect themselves to allow that to happen. We begin to see that person as spineless and I truly believe most women want a man that will stand up to them. It doesn't mean you have to be physical or verbally abusive, but you need to make it clear that you have limits and due to the fact that you love her doesn't give her a free pass to treat you as if you have no feelings. And the difference in being in love & being a door mat is we can be in love without being walked all over.
2006-09-14 20:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a give n take thing being a door mat is just u bein weak
2006-09-14 20:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when u love someone u really care about them sooooo much and they feel the same towards u u wanna be with them everysecond of the day it seems like and u cant stand to be apart u would give up anything to make that person happy and u have unconditional love for them and they make u happy and smile and laugh
but
being a dormat is when someone basically is using u to get stuff from u and doesnt really care about u that much there just taking u for granted
2006-09-14 20:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by droppantsnotbombs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love- being together through ups n downs
door mat- being hurt by a person
2006-09-14 20:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by LaTasha A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋