divorce question?

Question

a friend of mine has been married for nearly 7 yrs but her husband keeps on getting into more and more financial trouble as the years go by.
it is affecting my friend's mental state of mind.

today she asked me if she should divorce him even though she still loves him?

i told her not tobe hasty,
but i would really like to know what you guys think about her decision?

Answer 1

Well unfortunately, even if she does divorce him, his financial troubles up to the divorce are hers as well. Yes, people get divorced over finances a lot. Is he just having a bad run of it and getting deeper into the hole---or is he just completely financially irresponsible?

If the former, just file bankruptcy and start over. If the latter, then maybe if he loves her and wants her to stick around-- he should seek some counseling.

Answer 2

If she is not running the finances in the household than what is the point of her staying married to the man who gives her bad credit. She can get bad credit on her own, why does she need him to give her bad credit? Do not tell her to leave husband otherwise she will blame you for leaving him. Instead, suggest that she should discuss that she needs to take over the household finances because he seems to put them in debt. If you do not do this in positive way, she will have some resentment toward you if she left her husband.

Answer 3

I think that she needs to really look at her situation. She she take over all the finances. Take his name off of everything or, at least take all his cards and his checkbook. She can give him a budget to live on until he can make the right financial choices. I know it sound childish, but he is acting vvery selfish and childish, by what he is doing. She probably should get him into some kind of financial classes or counseling.

Answer 4

sorting out financial affairs is quite easy and dose relieve pressures, firstly contact the creditor and make arrangements to reduce the repayments if this is accepted you must then keep up the payments and you may ask about freezing any interest due on the debts this way you will allow time to clear your name and keep a credit history . so divorce isn't the answer only an easy answer to coping out of her marriage . if your friend loves her hubby as she says then she will give him this chance to redeem himself and give him the support he needs .if how ever he still accumulates debts then think about divorce .

Answer 5

I abhor ultimatums but this has to be a perfect time for one. Stop the undisciplined spending or I will divorce you. I cannot go on with this madness. I want a future and cannot see one with the current climate of unrestricted spending of money we do not have. I will keep my end of the bargain up and you must too.

Answer 6

Kick him to the curb now or you will be poor forever. You can do just as well on social services. Next time marry for money.

Answer 7

i was in this situation myself about a year ago. you cant help who your in love with so tell your friend to take over the finances and sit down with her husband and have a good heart to heart. if that fails at least she can say she has tried. good luck :)

Answer 8

Yep divorce him - all his debts are her debits too as long as she is married to him! So she loves him! divorce doesn't mean she can't still see/sleep with him if she feels the need.

Answer 9

Depends on the level of debt....and how he is putting them in debt..i.e Gambling etc....she has to imagine if she lost everything would she still want him?

Debt affects all aspect of your life.

Answer 10

dump the bum.