My girlfriend of 1 and half years recently broke up with me (six month ago) because she slept with her male friend, behind my back they organized a holiday to South Africa and they left me. When I meet her she have 9 month old baby, we start to rising the baby together, we both a full time adult student, I applied a nursery for the baby biased my University in order to help droping and pick her up in the evening after I finish class which I did it for more than one year, her mother spend her time after study, she going to a different kind of sport and yoga, me after I come bake form University I clan, I cook and wish the baby and put her in bed. The baby she become vary close to me I am vary much attached to her and she start to calling me daddy. I start to committed financially by working part time and student lone, I open a saving account to the baby, I never felt I was not biological dad, until she side to me, you can not see the baby and I do not want to see you as Weil, I rely love so much my baby and my girlfriend and I stile do love her, I spoke to her and I side it might be a mistake chatting me but lets leve what ever happen behind as lets move on if we have problem lets sorted out. She side to me the problem is you so I do not want to see you; you are not going to see the baby. Still I am crying I lost the baby I lost her as well. I do know her reason what makes her to decided to stop me seen her and the baby? Even what ever I saved for her I just want to give her but I scared she might thing in a different way. I dream about the little girl every day and night. HOW do I get over the resentment of her leaving me?
anyone that could give advice on how to get past this hump in my life, please msg me, your advice is appreciated.
2006-09-14 13:01:39 · 12 answers · asked by discover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this is not the Samaritans......go get yourself laid and stop whimpering!
2006-09-14 13:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did a very honorable thing by moving in togehter with your gf and helping raise her infant child. Of course you would grow attached to her if you were any kind of man at all. I admire you for doing that.
You stepped in and took over while she went out and lived her single life.....well, it blew up in your face, but it still doesn't make it hurt any less.
Give her time......separations are no more final that divorces or marriages. If you love something....set it free...if it comes back to you...it is yours....if it doesn't...then it was never meant to be.
Keep in touch with her, but only as a friend...let her know that you are there for her if she needs you...but don't become possessive or stalking.
Just keep saving the money for the baby and when she is old enough and you maybe see her...maybe then you can give it to her, but at this time, giving it to the mom would probably be a mistake.
Just hang in there...things will work out.
Good Luck!!
2006-09-14 13:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Discover,
Wow, What a tragedy!!! I am so sorry for you. The only thing is you will sure have learned alot from this. It will take time to get over. It is like a divorce. You did all you could. SHe is not responsible and not a very good mom either to involve her daughter in this type of thing. Kids suffer.
Remember this always and be careful before you get into another relationship. I wish you the best!!
2006-09-14 13:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh this is such a sad story...i am sorry this is happening to you...you must be feeling really horrible right now, you cannot make a person love you, they have to do that themselves, she left you because she did not want to be with you any more, she may still love you, but not be IN love with you, and she must be hurting too, seems like she wanted to move on, you did a great job by thinking of the baby and saving for her future, but it seems that your ex girlfriend didnt want it, she wanted to go, it's her baby, even tho you considered her your daughter, it must hurt, but you just have to move on and try forget them, offer her the savings for the baby, if she refuses then put it away and keep saving it for the girl when she grows, you may see her again, if you dont then theres some savings for you, but insist that your ex takes it for the baby before you do something different with it, they dont come cheap babies, she may think about it then take it....try not to upset your ex, she may leave and not tell you where she is next time, just be patient, concerntrate on yourself and focus on your studying, i hope all goes well with you, and i do feel for you.....best of luck
2006-09-14 14:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh..!!! That is sooo sad! I really feel for you. It is very painful to leave this child you love that isnt yours biologically. There is nothing you can do to claim parentage. You have to let go sweety.
At this early age though, just know that the child was loved and cared for by you...but you have to realize she wont remember you personally, but she'll have the love you gave her to carry with her always. Sometime in her future, as if by an angel your love for her may help her in some way. :D God Bless you are a good man.
2006-09-14 13:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if this will work for you or not but when relationships ended for me in the past I got with someone else. It really helps. It helps to know that someone else wants you even if it is just for one night. It will all get better I promise you that. Just let fate take its course
2006-09-14 13:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by princess crackles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend she just used you. Probably never loved you. But let you think she did. You will outgrow this. It's really painful but you will step ahead into the future. Next time don't be so naive. Open your eyes and ask questions as needed. Don't take anything for granted.
2006-09-14 13:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jose Miguel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You type to much! Time and tide heal all things. Get over it by finding a new squeeze and living the life you want to your not hurting her one little bit by dwelling on it
2006-09-14 13:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just remember " today could be the day all your dreams come true"
there plenty more fish in the sea.
2006-09-14 13:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need time. Move on and find someone else.
2006-09-14 13:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by A K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cheated on you and used you,accept it,learn from it and move on.
2006-09-14 13:05:51 · answer #11 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋