is it true that some straight people turn gay because they 'gave up' on the opposite sex?

Question

if u are straight i dont see how u can become gay just coz u have not met the right person

im a lesbian, and there is no way i would go straight just coz i 'gave up' on women

Answer 1

OK here it is:

People that turn to homosexual relations do so because they were gay all along and only realized it later in life...whether it be before during or after dating the opposite sex...

I think Gay people are born Gay... some know it right away, some realize it later and some suspect they are but remain in denial.

Sexual preference only remains so confusing in today's society because of the religious overtones of our society...

Answer 2

I'm not sure if it's because someone 'gave up" on the opposite sex.

Some folks mentioned about prison. There are gang rapes and such things that occur there and I'm sure that would have a very long lasting effect on a person's mind set. I know it would mess me up something bad. Yes, I can say it wasn't my fault and all that...but I think I would be so messed up and ashamed (basically some of the things women feel/say when they've been raped), I'm not sure if I would be able to look at a woman in the same way.

Just my thought.

Outstanding question. Best I've read in awhile.

Answer 3

Added after i posted, a response to someone who said something about prisons: Not all men who have sex with men are gay or even attracted to men.

What i originally posted:
First:
For some people sexuality can be fluid throughout a life time. At one point, a person can identify as one sexual orientation, and and at some other point they can identify with another sexual orientation etc.

Second some contemplative thoughts over the statement:

I think there would have to be a whole lot that went into that "giving up".. That is actually a really complex statement. What leads someone to "give up" a sexual orientation?

I feel that when people state that someone "gave up" on a certain sex or gender, that "giving up" is stated as a flippant thing someone "just decided to do because, *sigh* its just____(fill in the blank)"

An opinion:
I think people are very muchly too concerned that someone else isn't doing sexuality right. Or doing gender right... Or race.. or finances... or religions..

This part of my answer might make me very unpopular with some folks..
And, i think people are concerned if others are "giving up" on a sexuality for the mere fact that they feel it would invalidate their own sexuality in the eyes of other people. Frankly, i am not every person, there sexuality, sexual identity, self identity, might operate differently than my own and I'm not about to say anything is impossible. The world doesn't operate just to validate me to other people. Neither does sexual orientation.

A harmless and friendly bit of pointing something out:
No such things as opposite sexes, as that implies that there are only two sexes, and there are over 30 (Most of which have been invalidated, oppressed, or made invisible by main stream culture which thrives on a notion of symmetry that frankly only exists as an idea... T_T

Answer 4

Well, i'am 35 years old and i was married for 13 years, and had 6 kids. I had always been with guys. But i am now with a women, have been for almost 4 years., but it wasn't because i gave up on the opposite sex!

Answer 5

Sure, to the same extent it is true that Gay people act (turn) Straight when the 'give up' on the same sex... usually because they are bullied, or otherwise taught, that they way they have been created is evil in some way.

Answer 6

I'll speak from a Male's point of view being I'm male, If a male can get excited for both sex's they are and never was straight unless you can get some straight guys to admit they had feelings to both sex's to start from but then again I would say they wasn't straight hmmmm this is too hard to think of right now LOL.................


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Answer 8

I dated a gal that was bisexual who turned exclusively to girls for awhile when she couldn't find any nice guys. But she wasn't straight and I don't really think it's all that prevalent for straight people to turn gay - my gay friend says that it's the way you're born that determines if you will cross, and people do not really cross that line readily unless they already had a pre-disposition.

All I can say is that I personally never considered it nor would I ever.

Answer 9

I actual have not widespread anybody like this. in my view i think of that human beings are no longer born gay or without postpone, we don't fit into neat little bins. there's a continuum between without postpone, nonetheless Bi, to gay. we are born someplace on that line, and then how we improve up can shift that place. and then the stress from society could make us opt to be at a distinctive place adequate for human beings to mislead others, or maybe mislead themselves. The final section is the subject. That society will choose human beings for some thing that has no authentic result on society is shameful. You assume that having gay human beings is unfavorable. it could't be. There truthfully is a organic and organic element, because of the fact it form of feels that each animal that has pair-bonds that we learn in intensity finally ends up having gay contributors in this is society.

Answer 10

I don't think these people are really "turning" gay & I feel that if they "gave up" on the opposite sex it was probably because they tried to conform to what most of society does, they tried to be straight but found that it just wasn't working & that they just weren't as attracted to the opposite sex as they were to their own sex. What they really were doing wasn't "turning" but acknowledging who they really are.