Do you want your man to stop looking at pornography and going to Gentleman's clubs? He does it because the women are paid to act. He knows he'll never sleep with the large silicone breasts at Girls Girls Girls, but he pays her to be attracted to him. If he knows that's fake, then he won't mind if you fake the 'desire for sex' either. Come on strong and he won't have any reason to look elsewhere for entertainment.
2006-09-14 12:00:30 · 22 answers · asked by 66_chevy_man 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
you just answered your own question, or gave married women an answer............
2006-09-14 12:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by theFlyingPinkDutchgirl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When will (some) men ever learn..... that many women wouldn't give a rat's-bottom whether you look at porn or go to a so-called "Gentleman's Club" as long as you understand that since the beginning of time women could pretty much be divided into the kind you marry and the kind who are happy to take money to pretend to be interested in you; and if you're in such desperate need to have someone fake interest in you then - hey - feel free to head off to Girls, Girls, Girls.
When a relationship is what a relationship is supposed to be nobody has to fake interest in the other person. If you're happy with either paid-for fake interest or free fake-interest maybe you should ask if there's something about you that isn't very interesting!
For women for whom "coming on strong" would just be something they could not make themselves do or that goes so against any lack of boldness they, as more "ladylike" women, may have, the reality is they would rather end the relationship than try to turn themselves into something they're not. Many strippers and porn-actresses can do those kinds of jobs because they have been abused or otherwise treated in way that made them have a different view of themselves, men and sex.
Women who are more reticent about bold sexual moves or who actually find such behavior really unfeminine don't think of themselves as "entertainment" for men. So it seems that men who think of women in that way are perfectly suited to spend their time viewing pornography and going to strip clubs while somewhere in the world there is some more self-assured, grown-up, unselfish, man who is such a wonderful and kind person and who doesn't seem women as being for his "entertainment", his wife or girlfriend is actually genuinely interested in him - maybe even in the way you wish women were interested in you...
2006-09-15 05:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one, your lack of qualifiers makes this question rather fallacious. (meaning, fallacy, false...etc) You don't use qualifiers. You asked, "will women ever learn?" and without the qualifier "some" before "women" you are making a default statement that [all] women...
Also, you made a judgement about another man, based on possibly what? your own experience. People are not carbon copies of one another. Your reasons for going to a gentleman's club could be completely different than any other person who attends one of those clubs. I've gone to a gentleman's club in order to do figure sketches. Some people go there to socialize with the other people visiting the club. Still others socialize with the performers because they feel comfortable socializing with them in that environment.
Also, people "look elsewhere" for different reasons as well.
so perhaps you could state:
"If you don't want ME to stop looking at pornography, and going to...I do it because the women get paid to ack. I know i'll never sleep with... but I pay her to be... If I know that's fake... I won't mind if you fake the... Come on strong and I wont..."
There are a lot of your desires here. What about your sex partner's desires? It can be highly invalidating for some people to fake the desire.
I feel that you are attempting to justify your own feelings to others by masking them in broad statements that draws specific assumptions about a very large social category: men.
If you used I statements, perhaps you might be a better communicator of your desires. And, if you considered your sexual partner's feelings, perhaps they would be more willing to accomodate yours.
2006-09-15 09:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will men ever learn that women are not objects to satisfy a man's sexual urges?
Based off of the "question" you have posted, which is really a rant, I'd say that you are the one that needs to learn.
So your woman wouldnt put up with your **** and you feel you need to post a message like this in an online forum?
Yuck, Get over yourself!!!
Entertain yourself pervert
2006-09-14 13:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Simplystunning 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband doesnt look at pron or go to clubs. He doesnt like all that fake stuff they have. he says if he wants silicone, hell buy stock in Matel lol!
2006-09-14 12:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by mother_of_bonehead 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is NOT true for all men some men just like it no matter what,I think it is because they never see any other woman but the one they got and human nature is to want to see, do ,taste ,and feel thees things, and they can kinda get away with it it's not "cheating" but they still get the experience of it as best as they can get.
2006-09-14 12:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by dydy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure what to say to this ...I'm not certain you live in the same universe as I do..but here goes...FAKING is JUST PLAIN WRONG...And Rippers..and Porn have nothing to do with a GOOD relationship..> So there you go...I DISAGREE with you
2006-09-14 12:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by Stan B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people can't fake desire...if it isn't there...it isn't there. Sometimes pretending makes them even more repulsed. This is true for men or women.
2006-09-14 12:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by onlyonemeg 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I agee. If a few more ladies were to do an occasional strip tease for the men, maby the money would end up in your thong instead of some hussie.
2006-09-14 15:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by Extra Blue Note 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Men are curs with longer muscles and a few strands of gray matter.
2006-09-14 13:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by bumpb4 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, woman will learn, but men wont. Their tiny brains are at the end of their penises which domineer their every thought.
2006-09-14 12:10:03 · answer #11 · answered by tmills883 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋