Ive been with my fiance over a year we are building a house together and adopting a child in a few months! I dont trust him, hes lied to me before and to this day anything he says to me i dont know if it is true. I love him, but the trust just isnt there. I know people say" forgive and forget," but how can you forgive and forget when people say to you they know the lies, He hides everything from me and when i wana go out with my friends from in town he yells at me and says im going to cheat on him. I would never cheat on him, but how do i know if hes not cheating on me? What would you do?
2006-09-14 11:52:36 · 10 answers · asked by country_cowgirl2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the most important aspect of a relationship is TRUST-without that there is nothing -do u really want to second guess him the rest of ur life? all it will do is make u a angry person and ur too young to waste ur life not trusting him
2006-09-14 11:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is probable the most important aspect of a relationship. I say move on before it goes any further. If he yells at you now it will get worse later. He is afraid you will cheat because that is what he would do.
2006-09-14 18:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by mik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's controling, and you're risking everything by getting in so deep with him. You're building a house with him and adopting a child! Of course, it's normal for him to feel uncomfortable about you going out with other girls (and I'm assuming it's to bars, clubs, etc.) People do that to meet others of the oposite sex. Still, if he's lying all the time, what makes you think he'd keep wedding vows?
2006-09-14 18:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should know because he is insecure- if he lies why would you adopt a baby at this point?
and if you want to forgive & forget - then you talk to God and tell him to give you the strenght when you forgive someone you only remember the good never the bad
good luck
2006-09-14 18:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he got some serious problem.. he's kinda possessive to you and just what you've told he's a liar.. are you sure you want to spend the rest of your life with a man like that? you should think about it again.. or i mean do you want to get married to a liar and possessive man? will you be happy? will you have a peace of mind? it's possible to forgive but impossible to forget, you dont forget actually you move on.. think about it gurl..
2006-09-14 18:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by keiCh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would hold off on buying/building the house for now. Work out your situation now before you guys will become tangled in a nasty state with the house.
2006-09-14 18:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing in any relationship is trust. without trust there isn't much to a relationship.
2006-09-14 19:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by punkprincess0111 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray to God and ask him for guidance..... if hes yelling at you now it'll only get worse as the years go by..... Good luck and God Bless<><
2006-09-14 18:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Marilyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont trust him you shouldnt be with him... All your doing is hurting yourself by staying with him....
2006-09-14 19:08:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not healthy to be with someone you cant trust. i say move on, and find someone you can trust.
2006-09-14 18:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by gesswh0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋