So, i get that shes mine. She understands more than most that its not her i dont trust. Or that its not that i dont trust myself. Shes not just my girlfriend, marriage is coming into the pcture. i want us to be able to go out and have a good time without me tearing somebody apart for "disrespecting" either of us. This is a very hard thing for me to deal with. we love eachother very much and shes not asking me to change but i want to for her.
2006-09-14 11:41:20 · 4 answers · asked by Dallasjud 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Therapy.
2006-09-14 11:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried going to an anger management class? Some say it helps. And it wouldn't hurt to go to pre-marriage counseling. It will help with communication and just all around better your relationship. Also, I feel that maybe there are other issues with your lack of trust. If they are not from/with her, then it's from something/someone in your past. It's no crime to go talk to someone. They might be able to help you sort out some of your past, and better yourself for the woman you love. It doesn't mean that you are crazy, or anything like that. If anything, you get someone's objective advice, a listening ear, and can maybe calm your jealousy down a bit!!!
2006-09-14 18:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by verony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to break it to you but if you feel you need to change its obvious that you don't feel your good enough, and the fact that you think you need to change for her obviously shows that she has doubts about you too. So go ahead and change bro. the way to do it is by committing to ignoring the next "disrespectful" thing someone does no matter how much it irks you. If you are prepared it will be much easier to control yourself than if you are not prepared and have to respond on the spot. The next time it will be just a fraction easier to ignore and get easier and easier.over time this wont be a problem.
2006-09-14 18:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by David K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a promising mate. I read your last post, too. You need to see a counselor, therapist, priest, rabbi, minister, something. You have an underlying cause for this behavior, and once you find out what it is the two of you (you and counselor) can work on how to fix it.
2006-09-14 18:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋