Your husband work 12-14 hrs a day 6 days a week and make $4000 a week or 8-10 hr a day 6 days a week but make $2500 a week. Keep in mind I have 2.5 yr old child and are about to have another in 10 days. Tell me which you'd rather have, why, and you can add conditions like the first yr $4000 a week then cut down hours, etc.
2006-09-14 11:35:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It will not effect his work because he is an independent contractor, he can choose to take the smaller jobs or just take longer to do the big jobs
2006-09-14 11:44:47 · update #1
2-4 hours more per day for almost double the pay - let him do it if he can and wants to. Also, if you can handle raising those little ones and congratulations! The economy is hitting a lot of people hard right now and if the 4 of you can handle the hours go 4 it.
2006-09-14 12:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by schlepp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take the 8-10 hour days....See not only do I need my husband around he too wants to be home with me and the kids. Especially when they are young as they grow just too fast! We have 4 kids and now we only see each other on the weekends, that is our family time for soccer games and family outings etc... Sure the money is great but what is really more important to you and your husband, the money or a strong family? When they are young is when the family values are instilled, Face it today family values seem to be fading away, Look at all of the teen pregnancies and violence, A single mom can raise a wonderful family so just think what the two of you can do together. Either way money is not the deciding factor.....your children, family and happiness are.
2006-09-14 11:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by Rocky C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say 8-10 hr, 6 days a week. Right now you have a toddler running around and a baby on the way. You need plenty of help with your child and for yourself so that you can relax in your final trimester of pregnancy.
Your husband is going to need to be there for your children more than he is at the moment. It is essential because if he is never around then you'll be raising both of your children alone. Yes, financial stability is important, but even with shorter hours, he still makes more per week then most people.
2006-09-14 11:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he needs to tell you why he might feel being away from family for so long is beneficial to having more money and/or vice versa.
I wouldnt marry a doctor for that reason!!!
Simply and happily is better but you could sacrifice or come to some middle arrangement so he can still feel like he's contributing by working hard to keep you at home with the kids.
It's a tough decision and it's part of being a couple and finding what best works for both of you and your family and your mutual goals.
2006-09-14 11:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
8-10 hours a day. It's not even about what I would want, it's about what the children need. The children need a dad. They don't understand money yet, they just understand human contact. There will be time for making money when the children are grown. Now it's time for the children.
2006-09-14 11:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of those. I have my own job and don't expect my husband to bring home all the dough. He works 8hrs/day 5 days/wk and I like it just fine. We're both off on the weekends and have a lot of time to spend with each other.
In your case, it's better if your children have their daddy around than him being gone all day.
2006-09-14 11:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will say, do you have a job? is money very important in paying the bills. here is a big question you should know about and ask yourself. Is he happy with his job? If he work less, will he be fire? this is my problem with my girlfriend, we see only because i make time and cut my work hours, but i am at the place where everyone that came in after me pass me up to the manager level. Guy hates that. so see if this is hurts him, and try to understand.
2006-09-14 11:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think more money is always better. I think both salaries are way more than a family of four needs to live where I live. I think I'd rather my husband chose what he wanted, I wouldn't want him to resent me.
2006-09-14 11:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say get him the hell out of the house! So what if he's making less - it will totally be better for your relationship!
2006-09-14 11:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
which life style do you choose
2006-09-14 11:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋