My best friend and me are in an argument right now. She let someone use her cell phone to text me something that was not very nice, lets just say the text included the ***** in it. She thnks i should apologize for stop talking to her and i think that she should apologize for letting the person write it. People who are her friends keep telling me that she wants to talk to me but she is letting her pride get in her way. Then my friends are telling her that i want to talk to her.So what should i do?
2006-09-14 10:59:33 · 24 answers · asked by amandaklinekln 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she is letting her pride get in the way then do not kiss her as$. If she was really ur friend then she would have confronted the person that sent the text and let them know that it was wrong. U have no reason to apologize her u r the victim. All that $hit about her so called pride is just a lame excuse.
2006-09-14 11:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, start off by asking her if she can understand why you are so upset. Tell her that those words really hurt. Tell her that it made you feel betrayed, because she allowed it.
Maybe she did not even know that this other person was going to write nasty things...Could it have been in a joking manner, and you just took it wrong?
Key to an adult conversation is to allow the other person to speak. Allow her to tell her side of the story. And ask her to hear you out, before speaking. Then tell her you will give her the same respect. After all, you have been friends for a long time, and you could remain friends for the rest of your lives, if you can get past this. Overcoming problems is key to a strong relationship/friendship. Give her a chance, ask her to understand your feelings. Tell her to help you understand hers, so you can work on this, and get passed it. You will be stronger for it.
TRUST ME!!!
2006-09-14 18:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you love your best friend? True best friends are a rare gem to behold. If she's truly your best friend, you should just find her alone somewhere some night, and start by saying, ___, you know you're my best friend, and I think this fight is ridiculous, I'm sorry I hurt you, I miss you so much, ...it should go from there, if you are best friends, then you'll both be crying and laughing by the time it's all over. I have one friend who I can really say is my best friend, and we've known each other for 36 years. We started in 1st grade together, and I wouldn't trade her for anything or anyone. Good Luck, I hope you two work it out!
2006-09-14 18:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by occasionallyrowdy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should apologize. She may have let someone text a message to you that was not very nice but you made it an issue of your friendship. Tell her you are sorry for how you reacted but that you only did it becausse your feelings were hurt. She should be your best friend again in no time and she will probably be more sensitive to your feelings too.
2006-09-14 18:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, she can't control what another idiot texts to you. It's not worth losing a friend over. Tell her you'll get together to talk and be friends again, but, no letting "unknowns" use her phone..that's the condition. I'm sure she will agree. Hug and make up. Life is too short for drama! Godloveya!
2006-09-14 18:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if my best friend and i get into an arguement we immediantly call each other & talk about it & take an agreement, like you said, "She thnks i should apologize for stop talking to her and i think that she should apologize for letting the person write it. "
if that was our case, we would BOTH apologize. that pretty much helps if i get into an argument with any of my Best Friends.
Goodluck :0]
2006-09-14 18:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by girrafe937bl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her approach you and apologize, so she knows you mean it. If you act like nothing happened or you did her wrong then she will repeat the offense in a worst form, because she stepped over a line...and she is insisting that it's ok...but it's not ok to you.
Make sure to convey to those who talk to her that it's her behavior (action) that you didn't like...and that you are hoping that she is a better friend/ person than the way she acted.
2006-09-14 18:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should maybe invite her to lunch be the bigger person. By inviting her you will not only gain back her friendship but you can talk about what hurt you and you guys can talk things out... It's better to talk things out yourselves than to have messengers it only makes things worse in the end... just call her and tell her meet me here at this time... at a time that is both convenient for the both of you and don't talk over the phone but in person... It helps cuz that way it's just you two...
2006-09-14 18:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by mica8528 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should hold your head up and make the first move! Friendships are few and far between and we all make mistakes. Of course some can't be forgiven (betrayals, etc.), but this one is a no-brainer. She did something stupid. That's it. So call her RIGHT NOW and tell her you are sorry (yes, you). Then tell her you were upset about what happened but that you hope you both can remain friends. If she responds then great!
2006-09-14 18:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe send her a funny card to break the ice. If she is a good friend, then life is to short to fight. Though you are in the right, be a better person and try talkign with her. Face to face is better then having friends talk for each other. That's how rumors start. Cheers! and good luck.
2006-09-14 18:05:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋