...well its only happened twice, but how can i prevent this!?
Even when we talk like everyone else, and joke and laugh etc, i start to like them more....grrr!
2006-09-14 10:10:31 · 20 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you are a WOMAN, falling in love is what we do best....especially if the guy is funny and charming...
2006-09-14 10:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone!
Right now I am madly crushing on my best guy friend ever. He is sweet, funny, nice and...promised to never date any of his friends who are girls. Hmmmph. But here's my opinion on the subject.
When you're really close to someone, it often feels like more than just friendship, right? Like you know everything about the other person? With guys, I think most girls naturally start feeling attracted to them because of that.
Don't prevent it, because that would be ignoring what you're truly feeling, which is not a good thing. Instead, focus on getting closer to the guy as a friend. Show him your best side, be the best friend you can, but don't flirt with him. (That could weird things out too much.) If he falls for you, you two will already have a great relationship that will only get better. If he doesn't, don't sweat it! Guy friends are awesome, and you can have as many as you want.
And don't forget to notice the guys you AREN'T friends with, too. Who knows what other great potential crushes there are, besides your friends?
Hope I was able to help. This is the same advice my friends gave me, and I wanted to pass it on. Best of luck.
2006-09-14 10:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by Smiles Like She Means It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that you become attached to them quickly. Is there any specific reason why you might start to like them even more than what you did before you started talking to them. If so then, when you realize that you can stop it from happening again. Personal question: have you ever been in a serious relationship. If you haven't then it is possible that what you begin to feel for these guys it's because you trust them and you know that they would do anything not to hurt you because they are your friends.
2006-09-14 10:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by scifichik61306 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not just you girls who struggle. I have a good friend who, for the years I've known her, I've never stopped what you call crushing on. This despite valuing her as a friend and nothing much romantic ever happening. Even some of us guys know that you can connect on more than one level and it's not always easy to keep them separate.
2006-09-14 10:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by peter w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because romantic relationships are based in friendship first. Or I should say, they are supposed to be.
For a romantic relationship to work, you have to be friends first.
That is how men and women are designed. The more you get to know someone, the more you potentially will love them.
I don't know that there is a way to prevent it.
2006-09-14 10:14:31 · answer #5 · answered by John 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Speaking out of personal experience,
I have this friend that I may be crushing on ... again ...and we crushed on each other for like a year ... but we decided that it was best to just be friends ... so as to not ruin our friendship ... and we are still friends now ... so maybe you need to just keep him as a friend .... I did and it worked out good for me ... until I started crushing on him again ... if that happens ... then you know it's most likely meant to be .. and if not ... then you guys can still remain friends.
2006-09-14 10:32:32 · answer #6 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the guy as much as it is the way you both act when your together. You act like friends and as much as we would like to believe it Friends and relationship's do not work. Intimacy changes people They begin to feel that some of there privacy is gone
2006-09-14 14:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your saying, its cause its comforting to talk to people and your right happy with each other when your talking and hanging with each other. and the more you talk the more you realise how happy he makes you, and its hard not to fall for him when he brightens your day so much. =)
I know a boy that started to fancy me not love me but fancy me, for the reason that i was nice to him and i was the only girl he'd been seeing on a regular basis for quite long and so he felt that he liked me more and me everytime he saw me.
2006-09-14 11:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by Sereniti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel.. all my guy friends i have/had a crush on them!! its just because we are social butterflies.. that or we like guys who act like our friends but flirt.. do you know what i mean. Its so hard to prevent this.. And i think you just have to set you feelings aside and realize you are just friends... best of luck to you!
2006-09-14 10:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the alternative you're looking for, to fall in love with someone you're not friends with ?
My best friend is my wife and I think that's the way it's meant to be. Your best friend is the person you're spending the rest of your life with.
Works for me
2006-09-14 11:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by CeeVee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um..friends are friends.
NEVER GO OUT WITH A CLOSE FRIEND.
number one rule.
trust me I learnt from tht.
u cnt prevent it.
Look at them as a friend n only a friend.
almost like a brother.
2006-09-14 10:15:19 · answer #11 · answered by Nita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋