I'm about to choke him (not really). He's completely gone overboard with how he looks and is mad at me because I won't get on the bandwagon. It's about to destroy our marriage.
2006-09-14 09:59:33 · 12 answers · asked by i have no idea 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He just realized his life is half over and he will eventually die. It is called a:
Mid-life-crisis. AKA Middle-age-Crazy.
Some guys display wild outward signs while some don't. I didn't, your husband sounds like one of the lucky ones.
It will almost certainly pass. You only have to make a choice between waiting and not. Hope you are happy with the decision you settle on. Good luck and BTW this won't be over in a few days. Most of my friends were in it a year or more with none yet going over two and half years
2006-09-14 10:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and let him know how life would be without you. He will jump back on your bandwagon.
He is probably just feeling old and has found some youth. Just talk to him about and see if you can figure out what is going on. He might want to be doing some different exciting things. Listen and try some of his ideas and it might spice up the marriage in other ways that you have never thought of. New can be fun so open your mind some. Remember that marriage is a compromise. Make sure you take plenty of pictures of how ridiculous he might look, so that you can show him in a few years. Just humor him in some things and look for something new on other ideas. He will come back to earth at some point. He is getting old and he will tire with what he is doing. Good luck!!!
2006-09-14 17:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The idea of a mid-life crisis is a myth. If your husband has changed, maybe you should talk with him and find out what has precipitated it. You don't specify in what way he's gone overboard with how he looks - has he started using products in his hair? Dressing differently? Grown a beard? Sometimes that type of change can indicate an affair. In completely a different tack, he could also be depressed, and be manifesting it just in an odd way.
2006-09-14 17:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask him why he feels that he needs to change his looks and tell him you think he his just as sexy as he ever was without changing his appearance. Talk to him and let him open up to find out what is going on and follow up with it, talk to him every day sympathetically- don't do it to the point where it might seem to be annoying to him. Give him some breathing room when he first comes home then be there for him. He needs you more than ever right now and if you are there for him it will strengthen your marriage not destroy it.
2006-09-14 17:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by schlepp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do what you like, if the things he is into appeal to you try it out.
If you husband is bleaching his hair and riding around on a skate board you need to find him some help and or if there's a corvette convertible in the driveway that's going to bankrupt you find a good lawyer and get out because these things last sometimes more than a few years, if you can afford the corvette and he's not making you poor enjoy the ride and show him a few things you have been wanting to do for the past few years. (Time for a personal Cabana boy on the beach).
2006-09-14 17:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by Chiprat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband had an early crisis at age 37, he always wanted a sports car but fool him he let me go out in it and i killed it, then he wanted to dye his hair blue and so on. it was funny at first but then i refused to go anywhere with him in that state. men are just stuppid and go overboard with everything, mine grew out of it after a year, its just a pain while they are doing these crazy things. dont let it ruin your marriage just get your own back some how
2006-09-14 17:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats weird because I'm 53 and never had a mid-life crisis, whats it like, I feel jealous now
2006-09-14 17:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you had a heart to heart talk with him about where this is coming from? Does he know you love him no matter what he looks like? I think the first step is open and honest discussion, and it may help to have a mediator. You guys may want to seek counseling...
2006-09-14 17:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by lilshortrib 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he starts buying colored underwear you are really in trouble. When a guy suddenly starts trying to improve his appearance it usually means there is some younger chick he is trying to impress. I have never known of a husband who dressed up to impress his wife.
2006-09-14 17:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him clothes aren't going to make him look any younger, face the facts and admit that each day he's getting older. Such is life.
2006-09-14 17:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋