please dont bash me i have been with my husband for 7-8 years married for alomost 1yr. he has no sex drive I want it more than he does.
2006-09-14 09:51:10 · 19 answers · asked by Rebecca H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is he on any new medication? I am on anti-depressants and it just killed my sex drive.
2006-09-14 09:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by alynnemgb 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal. Especially amongst married couples. Home economics comes into play a lot. A guy has work on his mind, bills, mundane tasks like chores around the house. It's easy to go to bed at night and just get into a habit of sleeping.
My advice is to make it easier to have time for sex. Grab a pizza on the way home from work, keep the TV off so he's only got you to be entertained by. Give him some time to unwind and have a bite after work then go at it. No one has to worry about dishes, there's lot's of time for each other and there are no distractions.
Don't pick a day where's he's likely to be stressed from work (ie Monday's). Don't pick a day when his favorite sports team has a game (Sunday afternoon is not time for sex).
It's not that he's not interested in sex, it's that he's probably fallen into a routine with 'ordinary' life. It happens.
2006-09-14 16:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by grandbendbeachboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see a lot of questions about this here but I haven't really experienced that...I'd like to LOL! Anyway...you said he hasn't always been like this so what does he say about it? Surely over a year it has been discussed. Does he have any health issues? Is he particularly stressed or unhappy at work or at home? You just need to talk to him, you can do it nicely at first and try to get to the bottom of it, if he blows that off (which he probably will because he's male and they all try to blow things off if they can) then you have to take it up a notch and tell him that its affecting your life too and you need to know whats going on because you don't plan to live like a nun forever so one way or the other this needs to be solved. Good luck!
2006-09-14 16:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is necessarily normal. Lots of things can change a persons sex drive. Anti depressants for instance can cause a decrease in sex drive. So can stress, alcohol and other outside factors. You are in a tough situation because it is hard to not draw attention to the problem without making him uncomfortable and possibly angry and embarrassed. Maybe, try to see if there are underlying causes and try to help him with those.
2006-09-14 16:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by Donna P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he still find you attractive and sexy? Does he have alot of stress he is dealing with? Perhaps from work? Sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him and let him know it is ok to tell you what is wrong and why he doesnt feel the urge to make love to you. If your marriage is strong and you both have a good communication and he still doesn't tell you, some counseling may be in odrer. Good Luck!
2006-09-14 16:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by cabjr1961 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to go to the doctor. Sex is an important part of any marriage, and you guys deserve to have a normal healthy sex life. Tell him that you love him and you are not criticizing him, but you want him to be able to enjoy you the way you deserve. You guys need to get this taken care of.
2006-09-14 16:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by Heidi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't bash you! He most likely needs to see a doctor. There could be alot of reasons why this is going on. he could be depressed or there may be some medical problem! good luck!!
2006-09-14 16:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is one of the many curses God bestowed to Adam and Eve and all their children. Women get their sex drive in their late 20's to mid 30's, while men (or I should say boys) get theirs in their late teens to late 20's. It's a bummer. Viagra, baby!
2006-09-14 16:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think it would actually be good in car but maybe you can show him at you house or something like that because as far as I know it is not normal for 30yr. olds to have a sex drive.
2006-09-14 16:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not normal for a man to have no sex drive. Usually theirs is stronger than the woman's.
2006-09-14 16:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by CJBig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't "normal" but it also isn't unusual. Ask him to visit a doctor. He may have a low level of testosterone. A simple supplement could help. There may also be another type of health issue. If there is nothing wrong with him physically, you may need to seek counseling.
2006-09-14 16:57:09 · answer #11 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋