2006-09-14 09:43:33 · 35 answers · asked by SHASON 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ASK HIM ONLY HE CAN CONTROL WHAT KIND OF CONTACT THAT THEY HAVE AND THE CONTEXT OF THERE RELATIONSHIP YOU NEVER ASK THE OTHER WOMAN BECAUSE THEY CAN'T AND WON'T DO ANYTHING THAT, THAT MAN WON'T LET THEM. IF YOUR HUSBAND OR BOYFRIEND MADE IT CLEAR THAT NOTHING WOULD EVER HAPPEN BETWEEN THEM AGAIN THEN SHE WOULDN'T EVEN COME ON HIM LIKE THAT, ON THE FLIP SIDE THIS MAY BE HER FIRST TIME TRYING TO GET HIM BACK IN THAT CASE YOU STILL DISCUSS IT WITH HIM AND LET HIM PUT HER IN HER PLACE. DEPENDING ON HOW THE SITUATION IS HANDLED AND IF SHE TRIES TO CONTINUE CONTACTING HIM ROMANTICALLY. THAT WILL LET YOU KNOW WHAT HE REALLY TOLD HER AND HOW HE REALLY HANDLED THE SITUATION. IF SHE KEEPS COMING THEN HE'S STILL INVOLVED WITH HER SOME SORT OF WAY ROMANTICLY GOOD LUCK AND NO MATER WHAT BE THE BIGGER PERSON.
2006-09-14 09:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by sky g 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If its old as you say it is then don't bother asking because it means nothing now, everyone has a past. I save all kinds of letters because its fun to look back on the past and maybe someday his kids will want to see those old letters. I can tell you want to ask though which means you might be having trust issues. Talk to your husband if you feel you need to get this out of your mind. After all you married him so you should be able to talk about anything with him right? There is no need to bring the other woman into it because its probably nothing and your issues with the letter are between you and your man...he obviously picked you so don't bring her back into the relationship through drama.
Good luck and don't stress, its probably nothing but insecurities and maybe this is just a sign that you need to start working through that with your husband.
2006-09-14 09:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by K C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put the letter away and not worry about. People save things for their own reasons and most of these reasons don't particularly mean anything except that maybe the person wants to be able to go back and see what was going on during that time of their life. Sometimes it is comforting to know that at some point in time, a person had those feelings for you, it doesn't mean that you want to go back to that time, just remember it. I have stuff from a lot of guys I dated when I was a teenager that I have kept for years. Sometimes it is fun to show the kids what kind of person I was then and the kind of guys I dated. Also, it may help the baby in question later on in life to know about his parents relationship.
2006-09-14 09:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by Donna P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. It's very important to be completely open with your husband. the other woman has nothing to do with this. And is it really worth it asking this now? Some people can just forget about old things. I can't an this would be bugging me forever so I would just ask.
2006-09-14 09:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by pinkish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DId you come across this letter by snooping? Maybe he has kept it for his child, to show that there was love between him and the mother. If you are upset about the letter, for God's sakes girl, tell him it's bothering you, he is you husband.
2006-09-14 09:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by chunkydunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word in the question is old! Leave it where it's at.... Don't kick up dust if it's not necessary unless you have reason to suspect something & then if that's the case why go to the woman, you need to talk to you better half.
Baby girl THINK FIRST!!!!!
2006-09-14 09:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by REDDVELVET 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you ask anybody anything if it's an old letter? I wouldnt ask anyone anything I would put it back where I found it.
2006-09-14 09:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by tnek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to sound mean, so please do not take offense to what I am about to say. If its an old love letter, then don't stick your nose in old business. Don't ask either one of them. He chose you, hes with you. There is no reason to ask him about an old love letter.
2006-09-14 09:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by Kikyo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The key word here is old! let alone. don't create drama. do you have any old letters from boyfriends? stuffed animals, jewelry, clothes? something to think about ??
2006-09-14 09:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the letter back where you found it and mind your own business.
2006-09-14 09:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋