Ok, here's the sitiation: I have this lazy slacker of a co-worker (of the same authority level), whose refusal to do work drives me crazy. My ability to do job properly depends on him doing HIS -- which he doesn't. I've been polite this whole time (he's been working here a couple of months) and I'm sick of asking (always sweetly/politely!) for him to do the same thing, over and over. I've asked him 3 or 4 or 5 times for certain things to get done... and they still don't happen. He also often ignores IM's over the computer. I've had it! I keep thinking about that whole double standard about women in the workplace: that if I'm "assertive," I'll be considered a *****.
A) It's seriously NOT in my nature to be rude or bitchy, and I don't want to be (don't even know how to be!) BUT
B) I feel like he has no respect for me b/c I'm too nice.
PLEASE NOTE: this guy is gay, so it's not a macho guy issue - just one of respect, and power dynamics/politics in the workplace. What to do?!!
2006-09-14 09:40:29 · 16 answers · asked by melon_rose 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I've tried telling the boss, but the boss doesn't seem to do anything. It ends up just making me look like a whiner. So I've given up with that approach.
2006-09-14 09:45:05 · update #1
Since you have tried talking to your boss and he choose to do nothing, then follow the chain of command. Go to his boss, keep going until someone has the sense to do something about it.
You can't make him work harder no matter how much you want him to. But someone can. I've been an ****** before on matters like this and it's not easy, but I got prmoted for my knowledge and handling of situations such as these.
You can't be nice all the time and not everybody is going to like you, but at least they will know their limits with you. And, sometimes you do have to rattle their cage to let them know you are serious.
2006-09-14 09:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by dlobryan1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think very little of emails or IMs as a effective method of communication within the workplace.
Best advise is to pose this question to your supervisor. Put the problem where it belongs, with the person who has the authority to fix it. Bring documentation to back up your story.
Leave out of the conversation ANYTHING to do with sexual preferences, etc., or you will be perceived as intollerant or worst. The fact that he is a newbie means that he does not have a support group and may be on probation.
2006-09-14 09:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by ramnas06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he expects you to do his job for him, it wouldn't make any difference if it was a man or a woman. He's able to keep his job because he's a BROWN NOSER. He's the kind of guy that would kiss his own asz if he could. He'll never change & there's nothing management will do about it . You can be the laziest most good for nothing employee at a company, but if you suck up you'll be guaranteed a job for life. Management loves good little asz kissers.
2006-09-14 09:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am only 14 but last year I had this project that I had to do with this guy and he would not do any of his work and we only had i mounth to get every thing ready. so I would try to ask him nicely to do his work, but he wouldn't and I am not very good at being mean to people so i did my jod and let him look like a fool when it was time to persent in front of 2,000 people. I got a prize and he got a F so maby if you just talk to his boss he might help.
2006-09-14 09:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by jenny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to your supervisor and make a formal complaint. Otherwise if the work is not getting done on time it's going to reflect poorly on you even thought it's not your fault. The fact that he ignores your polite and professional requests to do his work leaves you little else to do.
2006-09-14 09:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by GraceandMickey A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is taking your kindness as a sign of weakness put your foot down tell him if he doesn't to his part your take it to next level your boss you will probably have to deal with the cold shoulder from him and maybe even other co-workers but at least the job will get done
2006-09-14 09:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by marine2003army 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you told him that you feel that he is trying to back door you and that He needs to remember that you are all supposed to be working together and not against... or remember there are always higher ups and though it seems kinda petty and childish to go to them with this sorta issue remember that he could be sabatoging what seems to be a good job for you. don't be the one with a finger in your eye. and most orgs. if they are good one they want their employees to communicate. that is what staff meetings are for.
nevermind i just saw the last min notes....
I think that it could be time to re evaluate if this is something that you are going to turn a blind eye to or find a new career
2006-09-14 09:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by Stuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must ask your supervisor to set up a meeting with the two of you because this problem is having an adverse affect on the working environment and on performing your duties. Don't tattle to your supervisor, just ask him/her to set up a meeting to help the two of you find an answer to the problem
2006-09-14 09:44:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him first about it. If no results then the next step is the supervisor. Work ethics are poor at this time for some reason. I don't think there is near the respect either.
2006-09-14 09:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by b's wife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Three options:
1. Talk to him and figure it out together
2. Just do your job and ignore him and when everything goes to crap and the boss starts yelling point to him.
3. Go to your boss now and tell him to fix it.
2006-09-14 09:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋