He has always been the one that wanted all the time. but lately its been me who starts things up. Oh he's more than willing but five minutes and its over.leavig me thinking whats the use.I've asked him why tring not to make a big deal of itbut it has started to be a problem.I want it so bad sometimes that I lie in bed fantisizing about it.andI cant take care of the urges myself. I need his body pressing against mine his lip on my neckand his...well you get it. also as embarasing as it sounds when we were dating his dick was at least 2 whole inches longer than it is now ..what happened?
2006-09-14 09:37:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Sounds like to me that the boredom factor has started to settle in. Men have to continuously be entertained in the bedroom. We must be visually stimulated to get it up and after awhile, all things look the same and boredom set in. Why do you think men cheat? It's not because we don't love our wives, it's because we want variety or new things to stimulate our sorry asses. I'm a man, I know because I've cheated on my wife for those very reasons. Deny it if you want, but it's the truth.
2006-09-14 09:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the sex drive is normal. Women generally become sexually mature much later in life (when I say sexually mature I mean the urges become stronger), as compared to men who are that way at a very young age. Counseling may be your best bet, if he's not into that then you might just have to have a heart to heart talk about what you need in the bedroom, and prepare him before hand that you don't want to argue, just let him know that as you guys grow together certain things change and that you just want to be on the same page as him. Above all, compromise- give him his quickies a couple times a week and ask him to give you an hour in the bedroom once a week. Also, foreplay can work a woman up to climax where all you would need would be 5min. of actual intercourse... there are also tons of books out there written by people much smarter than I that can help you out with out to approach this subject, it's a sensitive one for men.
2006-09-14 09:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by Nursen' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, not an easy one lol. Maybe find out if ther is an underlying reason for his lack of interst. presure of work, money worries. Stress can do a lot of things to a body male and female. maybe take a weekend away, dont set an ajenda then there is no pressure. just enjoy each other agian, explore each other, as we get older our bodies change and what turned us on 10 years ago may not turn us on now. Hope this helps
2006-09-14 09:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your husband completes the sex act by having an orgasm all by himself----shame on him. you need to sit his butt down and tell him that your needs are not being met. there are other ways he can bring you to climax once he's finished. does he perform oral sex on you? if you'd like him to, tell him so. has he ever offered to manually stimulate you to climax? if you'd like him to, tell him so. perhaps you'd like a dildo inserted into your vagina to keep the pleasure going; tell him so.
a marriage is a two-way street, where both partners are entitled to experience ALL the pleasures of consenting adult sex. maybe it's plain old missionary style sex or something a bit more oout of the ordinary. you have a RIGHT to be pleasured.
you might want to ask him how your sex life could be spiced up. suggest acting out fantasies, having sex anywhere besides the bedroom, going out to dinner, then to a motel/hotel, etc., etc.
open communication is the key to keeping a sex life active and enticing. do new things. buy and use some sex toys. suggest he goe out of his comfort zone to please you AND perhaps himself.
as to the reduction in his penis size---unfortunately, that's normal. mother nature plays a cruel trick on men as we age. this trick is not humorous. yes, the male penis does shrink with the passage of time. in my earlier years, i carried a n 11"er around, thought i was stud of the year. well, at age 64, i've lost a good 2-3 inches and some width also. my libido is slipping slightly, but i'm always ready to try new adventures in bed. not to pat myself on the back, and i'm sure my wife will attest to this, she orgasms every time we have sex. if not while i'm in her, then i really enjoy tonguing her to orgasm (so does she).
Good luck. TALK! TALK! TALK!
2006-09-14 10:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most men are embarrassed to admit they may need (possibly temporary) a boost, some enzyte or something, just to kick start the old motor so to speak. By getting the stuff for him, you save him the embarrassment of sneeaking around to get it. Do him and you a favor and get something that he may need, also, maybe a men's vitamin that will support prostrate. He will hopefully appreciate the gesture.
2006-09-14 09:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by Iamstitch2U 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like the classic case Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis were developed for. Talk him into seeing his doctor. We all get older.
Seriously, get him to the doctor. It could be high blood pressure or Diabetes, both of which can be treated.
2006-09-14 09:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's getting older, having trouble getting aroused or maybe he's depressed. If the issues still exist for awhile longer, I would go to the doctor and get totally checked out.
2006-09-14 09:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is very important in this stage of your relationship. your husband it very lucky to have you to be fantasizing about him. how old are you and your husband? do you think age is also a cause? talk things over and if it doesnt work, trust your instincts are you suspecting a third party?
2006-09-15 05:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by johnmonroe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men want more after marriage...Magazines or porno to get them going and to keep them at home! Good luck! Been there.
2006-09-14 09:46:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try fingering his A** hole. it really excites men. also try wearing a strapon dildo and teasing him with it (no joke). This makes men very eager to have a better erection (take care he might become very aroused and excited afterwards)
2006-09-14 09:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋