We all know people that are just plain annoying, and EVERYONE knows it (except for possibly one person). Do you think the annoying person knows it? If yes, do you think they could change it?
2006-09-14 09:27:28 · 23 answers · asked by DaniLynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Someone who is annoying does not know they are annoying. Every human being has a genetic feature that gives us the urge to make those around us happy. It is why we tell jokes. If someone knew they were annoying they would acknowledge their fault and try to correct it if they could. Unless they are a jerk or a dirty hoe or something like that.
2006-09-14 09:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by jerryjames619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some people are aware that they are annoying and do it to bother people, while on the other hand some people are cluless to it. So you have a choice do I say something and hurt their feeling or do I try and put up with it. It it harmless that I would try and let it go, but if it is hurting someone than I would say something for sure. I hear you and I get it, I know one person like that and I distanced myself from them and when they did something that would annoy me, I said it in a joking way; just to out it out there that they were being annoying. Tough call, but yeah I can't stand it
2006-09-14 09:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Tracy M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, they don't know they are annoying and will deny that they are.
It helps for the annoying person to hear that they are annoying from someone other than a good friend or partner - someone they respect like a pastor or boss.
I know this because I have a chronically annoying husband - he flips when I try to ask him to stop being annoying, but recieves it well from people in authority over him. And, he has made a slight improvement since it has been brought to his attention.
Good luck!
2006-09-14 09:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by pknutson_sws 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They possibly do. I'm annoying. I know it, and because of others, I hate it. I love being me, but lots of people find me annoying and it hurts when they tell me because all I'm being is me, and they try to change me. I'm loud, and I have a high voice, and I laugh a lot. But I can't help it. It's just who I am.
Unless they are being mean, or lying, or something horribly BAD, I would just put up with it. Because we all have different traits, and you can't help it!
If you think someone is really annoying then why are you friends with them? They don't want a friend who thinks poorly of them.
2016-06-09 16:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's most likely that they don't know that they annoy you. If you want to be friends with someone, but their quirky...just talk to the person about it in a decent way. Who knows maybe they can do something about what you feel is annoying.
Gotta remember though...just because you feel someone is annoying, doesn't mean they really are. It might just be you.
Be sure to look at both views before addressing someone elses quirks.
2006-09-14 09:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by Julie W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No . Some people know they are annoying and choose to be that way. While others may ot know and if they did would probably change.
2006-09-14 09:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by valentinegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you talkin' about me,you talkin' about me,huh?-sorry i am still laughing at the respondent who said you were annoying,but seriously it is the million dollar question
your question depends on a n agreed standard of being annoying but over and above that some people dont care as it works for them and they have adjusted to this level
to labour the point let me give an example;our neighbour suffers from brontophobia or fear of thunder due to her childhood in the blitz and came over last night ;she creeps around very silently and cos she was frightened she was speaking very loudly;on both occasions the first i knew of it was she appeared to be shouting in my ear;i explained as gently as i could that she was freaking me out but she shrugged as if she just didnt get it
i am forty nine now and the older i get the more uncertain it becomes to know what people consider suitable especially wiht different cultures;as my mother and i are both very nervous people it was impossible to make the neighbour aware of our fear and although we considered heer fear silly we did not make htat obvious
so there may well be a misunderstanding here
tracy m's point is very important;some people are into mind games and once they discover your susceptibility to a particualr annoyance will for what ever reasons of malice or powerplay or advantage or their own pain continue to torture you;any complaint to management in london has in my experience in lower level work in london among hte chav classes has proved fruitless;even among hte upper levels you would feel foolish trying to prove this kind of bullying behaviour as it sounds silly and petty when you are describing but we all know what is going on dont we and these people are very good at what they do and in many cases get a charge out of what they are doing-the books suggest that techniques for dealing with this stuff but if you are not strong enough psychologically
if it is a professional situation start immediatley with the grievance procedure and i eagerly follow htese cases in the paper where someone has sued for constructive dismissal-as for your private life i recently refused an open sexual invitation from someone because i am worn out from dealing with people who dont know how to behave
i would like to say that the answer is to talk up honestly immediatlely and decently but there are a lot of very damaged people out there and they will exert great pressure on you to pull you down as they drown emotionally
you have to be very strong and clear
2006-09-14 09:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Patrick O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have to believe that they don't know, because I don't think someone would WANT to be annoying.
2006-09-14 09:30:34 · answer #8 · answered by smartbunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No they dont know it.
if they did they would stop being annoying.
but when im annoying i can tell by the other person's reactions so i just ask them if im being annoying and try to stop!!
2006-09-14 09:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by C M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im pretty sure most of them know and they just dont care...
squeaky wheel gets the grease, in other words, if youre annoying, you sometimes get your way because its the only way that other people can get you to shut up!
2006-09-14 09:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by sue 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋