how can you tell if your 4 year old is telling the truth if he or shes been touched in a place that is naughty

Answer 1

Never ask your child these types of questions. They will tell you on their own if these things have happened. If you are worried only a counselor trained to ask these types of questions should be asking your child. IF you ask these types of questions it could confuse your child, make your child more fearfull, or damage any chances finding the person guilty and having them charged.
If you want to talk to your child about this topic I suggest he/she is read Good Touch Bad Touch. Most counseling centers will have this material. Some schools teach it too. This ushually gets a child to talk if somehing is happening.
I honestly can't see a young child of the age 4 lying to you about something like that happening. Although if they have seen something they do sometimes repeat it.

Answer 2

Did they approach you and tell you this on their own? If they did, then I would tend to give them the benefit of the doubt but be cautious in how you approach the situation.

I cannot say for sure whether or not a 4 year old could lie about something of this nature; in any case, caution is necessary and you probably need to have someone trustworthy to help you deal with this situation.

Have they ever told a serious lie before? Is there a pattern of lieing? If not, again, I would say that you could be reasonably certain that your 4 year old is truthful.

It also depends on whether the child has ever been told what to do if someone were to touch them inappropriately.

My heart goes out to you and your child.

Answer 3

It all depends on the maturity level. Play a game with dolls. Ask questions using the dolls. For example.............."where do you think this doll would be uncomfortable being touched?" It is a very sticky situation./ Some children may feel ashamed. Might have been made to feel it's there fault or it might have felt good to them and they dont knoe why. Good luck

Answer 4

by her demeanor. you should be able to tell if she's hiding something. most small children feel shame over that kind of thing and it will manifest itself in faces or body language that your child exhibits. She will act like she got caught doing something wrong. it is very important to let her know that it is not her fault and she will not get into trouble. no matter what anyone told her, they can't hurt you or her dad (or any other loved ones) if she tells on that person. if you truly believe that something happend, a good childrens counsellor would be a good idea. and always keep reassuring her of your love for her.

Answer 5

Hopefully, that has not happened. Sometimes these little ones, don't know what your trying to find out. But if you think this little child is being sexually abused or touched, you need to get this child out of this atmosphere. Good God, isn't there enough old bags out there in the world without harming the poor children. Make sure this child is not left with anyone whom you suspect. PLEASE !!!

Answer 6

I've heard that it's very unusual for young kids to lie about this. They aren't thinking about sexual things a lot the way those over the age of puberty are, so it probably wouldn't occur to them unless it was true.

I think the matter is worth looking into, unfortunately.

Answer 7

when I talk to my daughter about this, she laughs and says "mom! no!" (she is 7 years old). Children sometimes get embarrassed about these types of talks. Only you, being her mother and knowing her like you do can tell if she is lying.

Answer 8

You have to be careful how you ask. They can actually make up stories about events that never happened.

I think he/she would tell you if you asked.

Answer 9

take your child to a doctor and then to child proective services,