Went out to party it was my birthday and i woke up with my bestfriends boyfriend. I dont remeber much about what happened that night and to make matters worse i live with her boyfriend , two other guy friends from high school since i have always been a tom boy and her. I am know almost 5 months and starting to show and dont know what to do and this is killing me. I now it has to be his because before this i had not had sex in over a year! I decided to tell him and he claims he already new! and wants to see if we can work a relationship out?
2006-09-14 08:57:31 · 27 answers · asked by Chrissy s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He is still my bestfriends bf but he says he has never been loyal and she nows it?
2006-09-14 08:58:45 · update #1
not sure how to react or if i should trust him?
2006-09-14 09:00:56 · update #2
He said he was going to tell her but she told me she think he is going to ask her to marry him?
2006-09-14 09:09:12 · update #3
I agree that you're a whore,you need to stop partying and get some morals.What kind of morals are you going to instill in this child?What are you gonna tell them about their daddy,he was someone I screwed while being a drunken sl*t?I'm sorry to be so harsh,but you need to take a good long look at your life.If this is the kind of sh*t you do when drinking,then DON'T DRINK!!! Hell,how do you even know he is the only one you screwed that night? You may have done everyone in the house that night.I have a close friend who used to behave in this manner.Sometimes she had no idea how many men had taken a turn.Straighten your life up before that baby gets here,and if I was the alleged father I would demand a paternity test.If you don't remember doing him,who and what else might you have done recently or even that night?
2006-09-14 09:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by yablomee 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First of all, this guy isn't a guy that you would want to date. So I don't suggest starting a relationship with him when you are already going through so many changes being pregnant and all. You can have a non-serious relationship with him where you make SOME of the decisions together and just sort of get to know eachother better. BUT I don't think you should take it serious with him, because he's not loyal and even admitted it to you. Once a cheater, always a cheater. And another thing, you MUST talk to your friend ASAP. If she finds out from someone other than YOU, you will never have a chance to explain your story. When you do talk to her, don't play the whole "it's not my fault" thing, take blame for what you did and show her you are truley sorry. But always remember that you can't take back what you've already done. You may have just lost a good friend over this.
2006-09-14 16:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by AZ_Nanny 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry that you don't remember how it happened. You were probably given a drug by the guy. Explain to your friend that you have no idea what happened and how. I am pretty sure you were given a date rape drug. If you have feelings for the guy, try to work something out, if not, just keep him as a friend in your life so that your child has a father around. I have a friend in a similar situation, tho she has no idea who the father is. She was left at a party, and was raped. She drank something that was given to her. I hope all goes well for you. And the people who call you a whore for this, are @ss hole with no feeling what so ever.
A child is a blessing, no matter how it came into being.
I wouldn't trust him tho. Cheaters are cheaters if they do it on a general basis. I have only cheated once. I will never do it again. I got my husband because of cheating, even tho my bf at the time was sleeping with any other girl that looked a him.
2006-09-14 16:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that this is a bad situation all around, and I just want to wish you the best of luck. If he really wants to be a part of the baby's life, then by all means let him. But do not under any circumstances let yourself down because of what a man says. Protect yourself and your baby first. Don't let him treat you like dirt, and if you really like him then try to see how things work out between the two of you. As far as your bestfriend goes, I suggest you tell her, and make sure you're not around when she hears it, she might go after you. Send her a really apologetic letter expressing all your feelings on the situation. But don't expect your friendship to stay in tact after all this. Good luck to ya.
2006-09-14 16:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by jakyleonardo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
thats a bad thing to do. hes admitting that he hasnt been loyal before so what makes you think you could change him? you need to be honest and tell ur friend what you did. it makes you even worse if youre keeping things from her. worry about your baby... dont get into a relationship where the chances of you getting cheated on are very high.
2006-09-14 16:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jaime 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Be prepared to loose your friend. But if he is willing to be a father then that's great not many would in this situation. All I can say is sh!t happens and you learn from your mistakes and you continue to live your life. If you can sit down with your friend and talk and explain yourself then she might listen but if you have not the you should have done that 5 months ago.
2006-09-14 16:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, what a story. Well at least he's man enough to want to keep the baby and not try and get you to abort it. Look I realize she is your best friend and this will more than likely end it BUT you have more than just yourself to think about now. Get this off your chest and heart so you can enjoy this pregnancy.
2006-09-14 16:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should call Jerry Springer followed by Maury, they deal with drama cases like yours. I feel sorry for your best friend as that's a horrible thing to do, but ask yourself this do you really think that he will be faith full to you? What an absolute dramatic way to get together, I feel sorry all of you... no good will come of this-poor baby
2006-09-14 16:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by Caro 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look, you were irresponsible, but that's the past now. It's time to own up and take responsibility. This doesnt have to be a tradegy, you can make the best of it, and be more careful in the future, especially for your baby's sake. Learn from this and good luck!
PS: You are not a whore, one action doesn't define a otherwise decent person
2006-09-14 16:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by imix3 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Girl you are in for a whole world of drama. Have you told your friend yet? IF he is still dating her you shouldnt even consider a relationship with him.
Take a deep breath cuz its going to be a long road!
2006-09-14 15:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋