So , Ive had these friends for quite some time. most of them since I was 17 and now Im 22. We have all done everything together, gone on vacations, hang out with eachother all the time. (guys /girls mixed groups by the way.) I love them all so much, but lately I have been wanting to get away from them. I feel as though Im beginning to grow out of the drinking till we're passed out and smoking until we dont know our own names. There is never anything intelligent to speak about, and when I try to bring up new topics, like world issues and politics, environment, I get blank looks and they have no clue what Im talking about. Is is me? have I become snobby? or am I outgrowing these people? If so, where can I meet people who like to have intelligent communication?
2006-09-14 08:46:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am going to school, majoring in psychology. Im pretty quiet outside of my friends, so Im not sure how to go about meeting people on campus?
2006-09-14 08:55:33 · update #1
Sounds like you have out grown your friends. Stop dealing with them join a group or go to church and meet new friends. good luck.
2006-09-14 08:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dorrie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are outgrowing your friends and don't feel bad about it. This happens to the best of us. It may be hard to deal with and accept but it does not mean you have to totally drop them either. Since you are in college there are so many groups you can join and meet new people and still hang out with your other friends. The point is you can have many social groups in College. You dont have to be tied down to one group. What are your interests? Try talking more to people in your classes, thats how I made a lot of my college friends. And if intelligent conversation is what you are looking for then look for clubs or groups that discuss global affairs or something. Good luck!
2006-09-14 16:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by valentinegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your snobby at all. There is a such thing as out growing your friends its not that you don't like them as friends but you want more. You have several friends for different thing, so I don't think there is anything wrong if you keep them as friends while making new ones in the process. Expand you horizons, as far as were to meet new ppl try going out some where alone and spark up a convo w/ someone you never know were it may lead.
2006-09-14 15:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, move ahead, okay?
I've been there, and I know it is difficult but: seek your circles and keep in touch with old friends, as well. One thing is our professional life, and people in our branch, another thing is our youth and teen heritage - don't compare them, don't kill one for the other... you might need these people when everything turns hard, you will see!
So: be open in all directions and don't judge them as unintelligent just because they followed different education path compared to yours. They may develop into a direction totally different from yours, but if they are your true friends, you won't lose them just over anything...
In any case, what you need most, at the moment, is to connect with people with similar studies or interests - join a club, attend some seminars, conferences, informal gatherings, sign up for a summerschool, volunteer somewhere... and you shall see - it works faster than you ever thought!!!
2006-09-14 16:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not being snobby, it's called growing up. Sometimes in life we have to let go of the past to start your future. Try to met people at work or local coffee house. Looking online isn't too bad either. Good luck
2006-09-14 15:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by elementsoflife06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your growing and changing and its happening as we answer your question. Some will stay and some will leave, some will change with you. Friends will come in and out of your life like people walking through a revolving door, you will cherish and remember most of them as they will you. Make a new circle of friends, but remember the good times you had.
2006-09-14 15:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people change during their lives and it's hard to stick with old friends because they can change in a different way and evolve different. this is normal but it isn't a happy thing.i don't think u should give up your friends..because u shared a lot and they know u well.even if u don't spend as much time with them as u used to don't stop seeing them. u could find people with who u can talk in other places...like at work,school..or who knows...they will still be your friends but u can find new people that can make u feel like u want
2006-09-14 15:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by nobody u know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See some friends are intelligent and some are not.
So you cannot choose your friends based upon your intelligent.
Moreover you have been friends for moren than 5 years.
So tell them politely one day that what are all important at this stage to know and discuss..
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2006-09-14 16:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by shri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are maturing. Look for new friends in areas that are of interest to you now. School, online chat (go to the topics areas), work, etc. don't worry about your old friends, they will either self destruct or never accomplish much.
2006-09-14 15:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is you,you are growing up.your right at the age.go to the library or go back to school it is never to late to do that.Don't worry about your friends some will come around and some won't.don't worry about the ones that don't. Good luck and good for you.
2006-09-14 15:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋