who on here agrees?

Question

i personally think any 1 receiving child support should have to be show the courts what they are spending the money on especially if they are asking for an increase i pay 800.00 i hear this cliche thats not enough money to support 1 child but when is enough a enough in my onpnion there will never be enough but like i said there should be accountability on what the money is being spent on cuz lord knows majority of women dont use it for whats its designed for and for the simple fact i dont agree that cuz i make more money i have to foot a larger part of the expenses i think it should be split equally based on his expenses meaning if it cost 1000 a month to raise a child i pay 500 u pay 500 but there is no way i should becoming off 600 to your measly 400 keep in mind i dont mind if u disagree but please do so respectfully

i must admit yall have a point about more money u make the more u should pay i only have a prob with that cuz my job is more lucrative and i will always pay out the ying yang meanwhile i have a younger son who doesnt get no child support that lives with me and goes without as a father while yall questioning my fatherhood as a father that hurts that any of my kids would suffer but thats how i feel the court said **** that child cuz he not in the court system

Answer 1

well alot of men and women that pay child support do not see paying the rent or utility bills as a way child support should be spent however.. a child needs a roof over its head and utilities plus food clothing and all the extras that come with being a child so i do not agree with show where and how the money is spent as long as the kid is being taken care of as far as expenses well if people do not want to support their children men and women alike they shouldn't have them

Answer 2

only a man would ask this question...first of all how are you going to prove what you spend.you have to add the rent the light bill the gas bill the phone bill car payments insurence payments, food, close. shoes and we all know thet out grow close and shoes every month,now add school lunches school supplies,does the child play sports they need uniforms cleets or some kind of special shoes,now hair cuts and if you have a daughter hair cuts jump up 75% in the price.now doctor visits dentist visits.does the child nned braces thats about 5000.00. what about day care full time is about 1200.00 amonth after school day care around 75.00 aweek.is the child a baby your looking at about 300.00a month on diapers what about forumla have you priced that latley. now what all the sleepless nights walking a sick baby worth or all the kissed booboos,or all the nights of worring because there 1 late coming home with no call.you got to remember your not there any more so you are doing none of these things. you are now raising some elises child. you say that childs father pays nothing. how much would you like for the father to pay. with all that said please dont make your child feel as if there nothing more then an added exspense to you.

Answer 3

Well.. I think that both parents should be helping toward the expense of a child, but that doesn't mean that you make 3000 a month and pay 500 a month to child support and she only makes 1000 a month and pays 500 also. I think ( i have never had to do child support before so I'm just guessing) it's based on your income.. if you make more, you pay more.. or vice versa.. if she makes more she pays more. I think thats fair. BUT I completely agree that whoever is recieving the money needs to show proof of where they are spending that money.

Answer 4

I agree with some of what you said. Yes, I think whomever the child support goes to then there should be accountability. From experience (as the child of divorced parents) I KNOW that not everyone is honest in how the money is spent. My mother would spend money on shoes for herself...not a problem unless she is buying $200 pairs of heels and I got Kmart shoes/clothes. Now thats a problem IMHO. However I think that when the two of you were married and say you are bringing in 50,000/yr and she is bringing in 40,000/ yr then yes I think you should have to pay the larger portion of child support. If you make the same ammount and the child is living with you then she should have to pay the 800/mo. not you. Keep in mind there may be more that she is paying than you think...insurance, entertainment, toys, trips to the zoo, groceries, dental, childcare, afterschool sports, tutors, etc.. It is expensive....try just being nice and buying clothes for you child when you have them. They'll remember this when they are older. My father did this for me and I still....10 yrs later....appreciate this.

Answer 5

Unfortunately it doesn't work that way. I've been a domestic relations legal secretary for 13 years and the Court doesn't care how she spends the money even though "yes" it should be spent on the welfare of your child. The more money you make the more child support you have to pay. But if for some reason she has a significantly increase in her pay it would benefit you to go back to court to modify your child support as it may decrease your child support. Good Luck!!

Answer 6

In USA, child support or child maintenance is the ongoing obligation for a periodic payment made by a non-custodial parent to a custodial parent, caregiver or guardian, for the care and support of children of a relationship or marriage that has been terminated.
In the United States, each individual state is responsible for developing its own "guidelines" for determining child support. Federal IV-D Regulations require uniform application of the child support guidelines throughout a state, but each state can determine its own method of calculating support.
The law requires that she shows a change of circumstances since the last order. You can on the other hand petition to reduce the amount of payment you are presently making too if her circumstance change AND if she has a job, is bringing in money, has another man in the house to support her, you might stand a chance. Get in contact with a group like Father's United specifically designed to help the GOOD dads out there. good luck

Answer 7

Don't get me fired up on this one - I could go on for days. I'll try and keep it relatively short. I receive $107 a month for one child, and I don't always get that - it all depends on my ex-husband's mood and whether or not he has decided to quit his job or simply take a lesser paying job in order to get his child support reduced. Seems to be a favorite game of his. He also asked for 50% custody which means the amount of child support he is required to pay is cut in half. I lost my job in February due to my employer going out of business. I took my ex back to court for an increase in child supoprt, and what did he do? You guessed it - he promptly quit his job. Unfortunately, he has the luxury of doing this because he has remarried and his present wife works as an RN making good money. Apparentaly she is dumb enough to keep supporting him. Having gotten that off my chest, I do agree with you that there should be some accountability for how the child support money is spent. My present husband used to pay $850 in child support for one child (thank God his son is now over 18) and I know that his ex-wife took most of that money and spent it on herself. She doesn't work (claims she is disabled) but she drives a better car than we do, has nicer furniture in her home and is always decked out from head to toe with brand new clothes. So, I definitely think you raise a valid point here. Oh, and to "special9" - stop whining about getting $600 a month for 2 kids. I get $107 a month for one child - that is, when my ex decides to hold down an job.

Answer 8

I agree-- You should have to show proof of where the money is going. Especially if you are asking for an increase in child support. I know a lot of girls who spend their child support on all kinds of things, short of their kids. Then there are some girls who really need the help and aren't getting what they need to support the child. This is a sticky situation all together. But rent, utility bills, and food/grocery receipts should have to be shown as proof or evidence.

Answer 9

Child support goes to so many other things such as BGE, Phone, Food, Rent, extra bedroom, Daycare, Medical, When the child may want a toy in the store, bubble bath, lotion, hair ties etc. And most of the time the main parent spends more money. And how they spend it is up to them as long as the child, eats, gets dress, and is happy! I'm really sick on men think women waste their money and only think of clothes and things, but not of the hidden things!

Answer 10

I can agree...but only to a point. There are so many little piddly things that you spend your money on for the kids that you would necessarly have receipts for. I think that as long as the kids are being taken care of i.e. good clothes, clean home, medical care, that you should worry to much about it. I would get worried though if you see your ex looking nice and the kids look like they went shopping in someones trash bin. I don't know what kind of court system you have where you live at...but I only get 600/mo for two kids. Your ex is lucky to be getting that much and she is taking you back for more???? Don't understand that one. good luck :)