Married but fallen in love.?

Question

Ok,My problem is that i am falling in love with a guy,who is my husbands friend.I keep on thinking about him all the time which i know i shouldn't ,but i dont know why i am not able to stop it.
Now that i am married i should not think about other guy but it just happens.When i close my eyes i see his face,i remember his smile,his eyes and all his sweet things.I tried to concentrate on other things but nothing works out.My husband loves me a lot but its just that he kinda behaves different at times which i dont like.
But i dont wanna leave my husband as i have one kid too and that i think it's my responsibility not to leave my husband just beacuse i have fallen in love with this guy.I think if i do this, it will spoil my child's life,i dont think i will be a setting a good example for him.
But still i cannot stop thinking about him,so i have decided to keep my love in my heart somewhere deep inside and just go on with my life.But do u think at some point of time i should tell him?

Answer 1

If you tell him he will respond to this and more then likely it will lead to an affair is it worth your marriage their friendship and maybe losing your child?

Answer 2

So you married a guy who sometimes behaves in a manner you don't like? If he behaved in a manner you didn't like why did you marry him in the first place? You haven't fallen in love with anyone (including your husband obviously) the thing you have with this other guy is what I call "The grass is always greener" syndrome. You don't see all of this guy's faults...You have no way of knowing if you'd feel the same about him as you do your husband because you don't live with him. I suggest you concentrate on figuring out how to, at the very least, tolerate those things your husband does that you don't like or leave him, but not because you want the other man but because you basically lied when you got married.

Answer 3

I believe that you are just missing something that you could be getting from your husband. Don't tell him what you are feeling. I believe over time that it will go away. You are a human and will wonder what it would be like with someone else. Everyone experiences that at some point. Your husband probably thinks about other women. Just use the fantasy of this man during your intimacy and it will keep it exciting. I think you just lust him and don't love him.

Answer 4

You should say nothing. You are married and shouldn't be thinking about another man but that's life we can be attracted to others while with another but what you do with that attraction is where the problems can begin.

First, this guy is suppose to be your husband friend which definitely make him off limit not to add it can create friendship problems between the two if his friend happens to take you up on your offer.

I think your more infatuated than in love because of the way you describe your feelings for him.

You should only be in love with your husband as far as your attraction for other men because you are a married woman and if you are having marital problems that make you want to date and be in love with others, you need to evaluate your marriage and don't say your staying in a unhappy marriage because of the child.

If your willing to tell him about your feelings how will you be setting a good example for your child and sometimes we use our children to justify staying in a unhappy relationship or marriage but think that others should give us our cake and eat it too by engaging in marital affairs or cheating to make up for what's missing in our relationships while we continue to hold on to people who aren't good for us.

Answer 5

NO you should not tell him. NO NO and NO. Your just having fantasy thoughts. This is NOT love, it is lust. That's all it is!!! Don't mess up your life and your child's life for lust. Believe me if you do, you will regret it for the rest of your life! Put all those thoughts into the man who loves you and takes care of you and put the other guy in the past, not deep in your heart. Your husband deserves better.

Answer 6

You're just in love with the idea. You don't know him, all you're describing is his smile, and the way he loks, not exactly who he is as a person. The grass is NOT greener on the other side. If you entertain him, think of the consequences, you will end up hurting your husband and child. That's not fair to them.

Answer 7

the best thing u can do is forget about this guy,as u said u r married now,u have a kid.....ask yourself what if i spend one night with his friend in his bad,will i b able to look in to his eyas,will i ever b the same?I will tell u the true,i am young and married 2 years,my husband became the worst lover i ever had so if i have a chance to b with other man i would take that chance,but u r not me.So the choice is yours

Answer 8

Sweetheart u r not inlove, ur becoming infatuated with this other guy. Think abt if u decide to act on ur selfish need wot madness/corruption u can bring to ur husbnd n kid. Keep as far away from this guy.

Say nothing to ur husbnd cause there's nothing to tell or u might regret things.

goodluck!

Answer 9

Never tell him. This will only open the door for you two to discuss your feelings for each other. You are married so those feelings don't matter. Keeping your vows to your husband is the most important thing here.

Answer 10

If you tell him it will only create problems. And since you are not going to act on your feelings there is no reason to stir things up. Be strong and for the sake of your marriage and child restrain acting on what you are feeling with your husband's friend. Good luck.........

Answer 11

Time is a big healer. Probably, you don't have to tell anybody. You only have to answer to your own conscience, which is actually, God Himself, present within you. JUST THINK ABOUT ... AND FOCUS ON YOUR CHILD, who is your, ONLY FUTURE ASSET AND STRENGTH. Of course, you must take care of your husband who is at no fault, inasmuch as, this matter is concerned.