her mother met a man 2 years ago and he moved in with them.......he is very controlling and can be violent.....the violence was focused on the mother,but he is now attacking the daughter.....i know all this cos she has confided in my daughter....i dont know the mother well enough to say any thing to her.......the daughter is worried that if she says any thing the 2 of them will deny every thing and she will end up in a worse situation....what can i do?
2006-09-14 08:35:58 · 11 answers · asked by julie w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The answer is very clear from a legal standpoint. Legally if Anyone has knowledge that a Child is in danger of harm, or even in possible danger of being harmed, it is the duty of All People to notify the authorities.
That being said, the problem is that if investigated and found not to be dangerous enough, then everything goes back to the way it was. Your best bet is to contact Social Services. That way they will investigate the situation, and have follow up visits.
God Bless You All
2006-09-14 08:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh heck what a horrible situation to be in, poor girl, she would not now where to go, or what to do...........what a horrible person, he needs stopping, do you have community police over there, we do in NZ, and if there is anything in the neighbour hood worrying us, we can talk to them. I am sitting trying to think of something you could do. 1, Can you get the daughter to come and stay with you. 2.How old is she, she must still be a minor, or she would have been long gone.3 Invite the mother and daughter over for afternoon tea, and she what happens. 4.good luck and god bless, and i sure hope you can find a solutions to this problem.
2006-09-14 15:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 16, but i can only imagine what fear you are in for her daughter!! there is not much too do. some ideas could be that maybe once a week after school or whatever that she comes over to hang out with your daughter just to get her out of the house and away from that man. now i dont know the age of the daughter, but depending on age it could be more than just violence, one thing you might want to consider if things seem to be getting worse, like bruising and if she starts to shy away from people and be all to herself...calling child services to check the place out. just keep an eye on her and also a prayer will be the best solution. pray for her! i will!! :)
2006-09-14 15:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by i will be your friend! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother wouldn't listen to you anyway. I'm sorry to say your in it know weather you want to be or not. Your daughter has to get her friend to talk to you about this. This is not a time to worry about anything but making sure these people are safe no matter what you have to do. You your daughter and her friend need to go to the police and tell them what's going on. It needs to be on record Because without anyone ever complaining nothing ever happened. You have to tell them you might be saving lives here.
2006-09-14 21:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a crisis line phone number: 1.888.215.5555 DO NOT hesitate!! Get the situation reported.
2006-09-14 16:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is contact social services. they are used to dealing with situations such as this. you can also ensure that you do not get involved as they will keep any information you give them confidential. you really need to act fast and help this poor girl.
2006-09-14 15:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by pinklilyhun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure enough to have somebody his size, to give
him an attitude adjustment, then tell him: There's a bus
leaving for his next victim in 20mins. "Be Under It"
2006-09-14 15:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by Swamp T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to a counsellor. This may be too big for you one and can escalate into him coming after you and your family. Don't try to do this alone.
2006-09-14 15:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with her and get her mam and her out the house with out him and tell her mam she knows Wat's going on and try and persuade her mam to leave him and tell the police before it gets out of hand
2006-09-14 15:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by confused -gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to get your best friend to talk to someone who is trained in this matter and reasure her it will be keep secret unless she says different,
2006-09-14 15:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by magsgow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋