How do I keep myself from being discouraged?

Question

My husband and I are going to try for our first baby soon.

I have been exercising, eating right, taking my vitamins, etc. in order to prepare my body for a baby.

I am worried that I may not get pregnant for a while since I have been on birth control pills for 5 years.

How do I keep myself from being discouraged if I don't get pregnant after a few months?

How do you deal with it?

Answer 1

According to my OB, you are more likely to get pregnant the first month after going off the pill because you are more likely to ovulate that month.

I found the best way to deal with monthly disappointment is to try to educate myself and work with my OB to correct any problems interfering with conceiving. But you don't know that you'll even have problems, so don't start stressing over it because stress can interfere with conceiving.

My suggestion would be to get an ovulation kit and test the first month after going off the pill so you make sure you have sex on the day you ovulate. You can also have sex every other day from day 10 of your cycle to day 20. You are most likely to ovulate during that time frame so since sperm live on average 2 days, you will have a constant supply of sperm in you at all times to fertilize the egg when you ovulate. The ovulation kit will tell you if you do ovulate because if you don't, there are medications - such as Clomid, that can help you ovulate. In order to take Clomid though, you usually take it beginning day 3 of your cycle. Therefore, if you find you don't get pregnant the first month because you didn't ovulate and would like to try Clomid, you'll have to make an appointment with your OB as soon as you start your period so you can start taking it by day 3.

Everything you are doing so far is a great start. Best wishes for quick conception and a healthy, happy baby.

Answer 2

You are starting out on the right foot! Unfortunately, there is no guarntee that it won't take awhile to have a baby. If after a few months you are just totally discouraged, see a doctor to make sure that there aren't any problems, like erratic ovulation, endometriosis, or low sperm count. If everything is okay, don't feel bad if you want to take a few months off from ttc. Don't let ttc become the only reason to be intimate with your husband, it won't be fun and eventually both of you will resent it. If you take a month or two off, be spontaneous with your love life and then when you are feeling ready to try again, go for it. Good luck.

Answer 3

This is my standard answer......... go get a book called Taking Charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler
This book will help you with all of your menstrual and conception questions. It covers everything from temperature to mucus checking, etc.. It will help you understand your body and all the myths about it. It will help you time when you are ovulating and the best times to conceive – or not! My husband and I tried for a year and nothing happened. The first month I used the book we conceived right away. Now I am due Feb 2. It's about knowing your body and knowing when you are fertile or not. You can pick and choose what you do with your info. Good luck and don't listen the all the myths!

Answer 4

Even though its tough, try not to put all of your 'eggs' in one basket. Most couples (80%) get pregnant within one year with just unprotected sex. Most doctors recommend that you wait three months after you quit taking the birth control pill to start trying. This gives your uterus time to get thicker and reduces your chances of a miscarriage.

Each month that you get your period while trying can be depressing. It will get easier eventually. What worked for me was: every time I got my period, I would buy myself a gift or treat myself to something I had always wanted. And in the 32 months since we have started trying, I have really treated myself a lot.

Good Luck!!

Answer 5

I had been on the pill for 13yrs and have now been married 18mths. We started ttc in April of this year (5 mths) with no such luck as yet. My only advise is read up as much as you can to help get your timing right (eg, charting your bbt and ovulation cycle) and re-discover the sexual feelings you have for each other during these (as we like to call it) "practising" times!!
Other than that, I am dealing with this discouragement every month at the moment!! {{{Baby dust}}} to you for luck!

Answer 6

There is no way other than to just look on the bright side and keep trying. A few months isn't very long to try.
My husband and I tried for over 4yrs before I conceived our first and only child. Let me tell you there were alot of tears after so many months of hoping.
Good luck ttc.

Answer 7

look i said the same things you are thinking too..i was on the pill for 5 years and got off last sept...my husband and i just started tryin in august and now im a month pregnant...so it happens faster than what you think...i was on prenatals for a month and that was it...here are a couple of websites to help with ovulation...trust me it should not take long and dont stress that only makes it worse..good luck to you and lots of baby dust ..

Answer 8

There is 1 decade between my daughter(14) and my son(4) We are in the process of trying for number three. I have been trying for 2 years now with no success, I just have faith and pray that one day we are blessed with another baby, I have endimetriosis and tilted uterus, therefore it is very hard for husband and I to conceive, but we feel so blessed to have our 2 kids. I know it is frustrating to keep waiting for the blessing to happen, but believe that one day it Will happen. God Bless You

Answer 9

You usually get pregnant right away after stopping birth control pills.

Good luck!

Answer 10

Think possitive. Don't put negative thoughts in your head you're the only one that has control over it. And have faith, think to yourself "I so see ourselves with our baby by next year".