I was thinking about it, and I think it would be pretty hard to part with a baby that I carried for 9 months, kept healthy, and bonded with before birth. It would be hard if the baby was for a heterosexual couple who could produce their own sex cells.
Now, I was watching a baby story, and I saw a gay couple have a surrogate mother for twin girls (one with one guy's sperm and one with the other). The eggs were from the surrogate. What kind of relationship, if any, will they have now with the mother? Wouldn't this be hard to do ("donate" your eggs)? Would you do it, either way, with your eggs or with someone elses embryo? Has anyone had this experience that would like to share it?
2006-09-14 07:50:35 · 17 answers · asked by sour_apple 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Its not something I am actually considering, just a question because of the show I saw. Sorry for the confusion!
2006-09-14 08:31:58 · update #1
After having my son I honestly and truly DO NOT think i could do it. You carry a baby right under your heart for 9 months- he is a part of your body and soul and thats not just something u can forget about or give away. Its such a special bond that is impossible to be broken! I do think if I was raped I would be able to give the child up for adoption though! But as far as being a surrogate? I truly do feel aweful for all the wonderful people who cannot have kids due to medical reasons- my heart breaks for them- but I could not part with a child that had grown inside of me for 9 months!
2006-09-14 07:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont see any problem with being a surrogate mother but the only way I could do that is if it was a close friend or a distant relative by marriage, i know that sounds disturbing( but I have good reasoning) I couldnt just bond with the child and then never see that child again. I would atleast want them in my life, If I couldnt be their mother, then I could still be close to them... I could ask to be a god parent or something.
I just couldnt walk away from a child that I carried inside of me for nine months even if it wasnt my own...I would still love that child... I dont think that I could just walk away...
2006-09-14 07:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have actually offered to be a surrogate for my sister in law. She has constant miscarriages due to blood pressure problems and diabetes. We would use her eggs and her hubbies sperm. I guess I could handle it a lot better knowing that I would still have a bond with the baby as his/her aunt. I don't think I would do it if strangers were involved. My SIL wants to tell the baby later down the road so he/she knows how much he/she is wanted. I'm not so sure about that though. I think it would be a bit confusing.
2006-09-14 07:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kel K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I could never be a surrogate mother. I get way to attached from the very begining. I don't even know if I could donate my eggs. I would know I had a child out there somewhere and would want to know if they were being properly taken care of.
2006-09-14 07:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by monroe1172002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be more than happy to be a surrogate mother and let someone else experience the love of a child like I have with mine. I think you would have to be mentally prepared to take this kind of step.
2006-09-14 08:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jesse E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some friends who can't conceive, though the doctors have said both are healthy. I had considered it once, because he said with his military background the government pays for anything I might need. The more I thought about it, though, the worse it seemed. He is a good friend, and his wife is pretty neat too... But as much as I love them, I think it would be too hard to give up a child- even if it was theirs- after I carried it that long. It may be their genes, but it would have been a part of me... I am grateful that never went past the preliminary "talking about it casually" stage, because I have changed my mind... And I would never even consider doing that with my own eggs... Then I would feel justified in wanting to keep it... It is, afterall, half mine.
2006-09-14 07:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Butterfly ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I easily have a chum who develop right into a surrogate. She did it for a pair she did not recognize. She informed me once that it develop into extra accessible to enable the youngster bypass to someone she wasn't close too yet because the beginning she's develop right into a really sturdy chum of their households. oftentimes the mothers and fathers are responsible for masking the cost of remedy and expenses. i do not imagine there is something incorrect with being compensated for having to carry anothers toddler for 9 months. My chum stated if you're open adequate to attempt this enable the mothers and fathers to be there for dr. appts. medical institution visits or perhaps the beginning. If in any respect achieveable do not use your eggs this is might want to signify sending part of you away it really is confusing to do. it really is a noble difficulty your thinking yet make positive you get the right couple. one which received't see you as a danger. My pals present knows her because the guy who helped deliver her into the international.
2016-11-26 23:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by garling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way I would do it if the baby was to be from my eggs, especially not for someone with the ability to produce children on their own! But I have actually thought that if my husband's or my siblings were unable to get pregnant on their own, that I would consider carrying their baby (their sperm and egg) for them. Although I think the effect it would have on my kids and the questions I would get from people would make it too hard. I don't think it would be hard to give a loved one a baby when you could still be in it's life and see how happy it made them. Any other scenerio wouldn't be worth it.
2006-09-14 08:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the oldest of 3 sisters, nad I would do it for any of my little sisters, but not for a stranger. Surrogate means you just "lend" your uterus, the egg and sperm are from other people, so for the person who said that the baby would be half hers, that's not true, and legally she would have no rights at all....other story if th egg is yours.......anyways, I think it's hard but as i said i'd do it for my sisters, and I admired people who do it, that's a wonderful thing to do for others
2006-09-14 08:08:58 · answer #9 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's crazy, unless you really don't mind mothering a stranger's child. There is nothing different in the genes of a gay man, he's just like any other man but he chooses to have a sexual relationship with another man. Hence, you're still going to be the mother of his child.
And, even if I couldn't have a baby myself, I still won't consider having another woman "donate" her egg for my husband.
2006-09-14 08:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by blunt_yet_sharp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋