I am looking for opinions my wedding anniversary is coming up next month and I am really happy with my husband our marriage is wonderful we are still best friends and we can talk about anything and we trust each other completey and we work together we both have control, neither of us takes complete control of the marriage so what do you think would make a good marriage or what does make your marriage great?
2006-09-14 07:40:27 · 25 answers · asked by Jenna 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We also have two beautiful boys together and we both agree what is best for them and how we want to raise them
2006-09-14 07:52:33 · update #1
gosh.. lately i've been thinking a LOT about relationships and what marriage means to me. here's what i've come up with:
when u are dating someone, u are Looking for someone who specifically will do what is Good and Right for you; and you do the same for that person. that way, no matter what obstacles u face, the Commitment keeps you together, and u already know u can get thru anything together, because both are open minded, and actively seek to do what is good and right and healthy for the future Marriage.
also, i believe once u find that person and marry them, it actually FREES you, it's opposite of ball and chain: you are now FREE to give and receive love, with NO fear of rejection, or hurt feelings..! when u date someone, u are constantly afraid that u have to play games, don't show ur true feelings, etc etc.. they might leave you. but when u are married, it is cuz now u don't have to worry about that anymore! u don't impress in order to keep them around... u impress because you CHOOSE to do it. it's unconditional. and a marriage takes work, but it's the Satisfying kind of work.... u know this person is worth it, that's why u married him/her!! so u gotta constantly learn and Grow together, to never let the marriage become stagnant, boring, or too lazy. if there's Anyone in the world u want to treat well and do right by, it's your Partner. instead of taking him/her for granted and treating them like a slave. u have to actively remember to do your job as a Man, as a Woman in a marriage, and then Appreciate, and Show appreciation to each other. because that person is worth it...and if u are worth it, they should do same for you. and to work on a relationship ,to keep eachother happy... what else could u ask for?
people say they want a wife or husband who "does whatever they say". that is B.S. u want someone who Chooses to take care of you, not just cuz u say. it is always a choice..when someone stops doing their job, they are choosing to disrespect, they are choosing not to take care of their responsibilites. so u gotta make sure u are Accountable first, and then you keep each other accountable..and i believe that will save almost all marriages from failing..when both people accept and take on their responsibilties, using thier Love to GROW and LEARN each day, every day. neverending... :)
2006-09-14 07:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you religious? I've heard it said that it takes three to make a marrige work, Man, Woman, and Jesus Christ. I am in the same type of marrige, although I have been on the other end, and divorced after 4 years and 3 kids. But he was an addict, so I know what a bad marrige is too. My husband now is totally open to communication, he works very hard, does not use drugs, and is open to prayer and religion.
2006-09-14 07:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We laugh ALL THE TIME...Communication, trust, we are BEST FRIENDS. BUT the number thing. When we need to discuss something, we meet in the middle - figure out the problem - compromise and never bring it back up.
You cna't change the past you can only live for tomorrow!
Your on the right track and that is nice to see these days.
Congrats on the up and coming anniver.
2006-09-14 08:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by WhatNext 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The keys are trust,compromise, and forgiveness. Having mutual goals and values and allowing each partner to be an individual within the marriage.
2006-09-14 12:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's seems to me you marriage is doing well .understanding,respect,communication,friendship,and loving each other is the basic of any relationship. I've been married for 8 yrs and our marriage still going strong and better every day because of that.
2006-09-14 07:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by jolie minouche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment
2006-09-14 07:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your marriage is that GOOD & GREAT as u say, then WHY u need our advice ? That means, u should be the one advicing us on how to make our marriage GOOD & GREAT !
Stop the mind games or ...whatever..gives the kicks...
2006-09-14 08:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been married for 7 years and i think its gets better with age its about give and take and been completley honest with each other iv,e just had my 7th anniversery and we went to a hotel and night club we acted like we,de just met it was loads of fun we have rowe like everyone but thats healthy we work as a team and we are best friends
2006-09-14 07:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by ELIZABETH C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of communication. Truly being partners, not one bossing the other. Helping each other, not saying that is my job or this is your job. Keeping the sparks flying. We go on dates, never take each other for granted.
2006-09-14 07:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bologna
2006-09-14 07:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋