Went out to party it was my birthday and i woke up with my bestfriends boyfriend. I dont remeber much about what happened that night and to make matters worse i live with her boyfriend , two other guy friends from high school since i have always been a tom boy and her. I am know almost 5 months and starting to show and dont know what to do and this is killing me. I now it has to be his because before this i had not had sex in over a year! Would you keep the baby or no?
2006-09-14 07:28:37 · 11 answers · asked by Chrissy s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
whether you keep the baby or put it up for adoption is a decision you and the dad need to make. Does he know you are pregnant? If not you need to talk to him. As far as your best friend is concerned friends come and go but family is forever. Don't choose your friend over your baby you will regret it forever she will definitely be angry and the friendship is probably going to come to an end whether you keep the baby or not.
2006-09-14 07:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't believe in abortion personally, so I would say have the baby for sure. Then I would say...weigh your options. You can always put the child up for adoption if you are not ready to raise him or her. You didn't say if you have told your friend or her boyfriend about the situation. I know it will be really hard, but you have to do it eventually. "You made your bed, now you have to lie in it..." You will lose your friend, I am sure of it, but you owe it to the father to let him know he has a child coming into this world very soon. You need to tell him now. You have already had 5 months to come to terms with this; you have only left him 4 months to do the same. You owe him (and your friend) the truth.
2006-09-14 14:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by CB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can know if you care to raise a child or not. You also need to notify the father, as he should have the right to take custody if he wants. But, he will probably do a Jerry Springer and say there is no way that it could be his because you are a tramp. If so, then you make the decision yourself. I think you probably need to put it up for adoption.
2006-09-14 14:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to weigh your options about keeping the baby. The real issue is telling your friend. Has her boyfriend come clean about cheating on her? You and he are equally responsible and should tell her together. You could keep this hidden from her for the rest of your friendship, but you'll always feel guilt and it will taint the friendship even if she's oblivious.
2006-09-14 14:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Stop drinking & or using drugs, it appears you can not handle them.
2. Figure out who the father is and let him know the situation..
3. Put the child up for adpotion as you are immature and can not control your life.
4. Attend an AA or NA meeting as soon as possible. Seek help.
5. Move out of that house.
2006-09-14 14:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by usaf.primebeef 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep the baby, if you are ready, or adoption. No abortion. Your life is now about the baby. Doesn't matter if your friend gets her feelings hurt. THe baby is now your first priority. Don't punish the baby just cuz you are afraid to tell your friend what happened. What's done is done. Look to the future and start fresh now.
2006-09-14 14:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by april_hwth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a personal decision that no one can make for you. I think you need to decide if you are ready to raise a child. I am a mother, and I love it, but it takes a tremendous amount of sacrifice. When you are a parent, you are a parent 24 hours a day. You may want to consider getting some counseling to help you make this decision. You may also want to consider praying for guidance.
2006-09-14 14:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by lori09031028 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say adoption is your most viable option. You can even lie to the guy and everyone around you and say it was someone elses in case they get suspicious.
But if you want it, keep it. But realize that it'll keep you bound to the guy for the rest of your life. Unless he wants nothing to do with you or the baby.
No easy answer, try to go to counseling and figure out what you want. Good luck.
2006-09-14 14:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by curious_maya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give the baby up for adoption. There are lots of people who want kids and can't have them. If not, you need to grow up. Your home environment doesn't sound too stable for a child.
2006-09-14 14:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too late to do anything but continue the pregnancy. Your best option is adoption because no one will perform an abortion that late into your pregnancy
2006-09-14 14:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by callalobo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋