I've been married for about 5 years, recently, I have found evidence of my husband becoming a little to friendly with a woman at work. I have found excessive phone call on the cell phone bill and I also overheard a conversation between the two of them. I have confronted my husband about the situation and we addressed our differences. At this point I'm not 100% sure that the flirting or whatever has ended. I have no evidence of otherwise but my intuitions is getting the best of me. Anyway, I am considering getting little more acquainted with someone that experssed intrest in a friendship with no strings attached of course. (sex is not an option). I know this can be dangerous but why should my husband have all the fun!! This would be totally out of character for me. I pride myself in being a faithful, committed partner.
2006-09-14 07:07:54 · 7 answers · asked by luvjoi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is very inmature of you. First of all, you say that sex is not an option, but I garantee you that is what it will lead up to, if not from your part it will be from the other person's part. Why put yourself through all that stress? You fooling around because you speculate your husband is will only make matters a whole lot worst. You may need to tell him that you don't feel confortable with him having female friends. You need to sit down and be open about your feelings. His too. It sounds to me though that he may have gotten a bit serious with her due to the phone calls and so forth. If you see him making excuses and coming home late then that will be a for sure sign then. So, until then, hang on tight. I think your self-esteem has been hurt by him and so you feel the need to be vengeful. Instead, why not try to make yourself more attractive? Sometimes women after being married for sometime, no longer put on makeup, and sort of let themselves go. Is when we are married that more than ever we need to make ourselves attractive to our husbands. In the end if your husband is fooling around you will find out sooner or later.
2006-09-14 07:21:52 · answer #1 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't start nothing and there won't be nothing. If you have not had a previous friendship with this person, don't start now because your husband might or might not be flirting with someone else. If you want to end your marriage real quick, then go ahead and play with fire and you will be the one that gets burn. Continue to keep the lines of communication open between your husband because the flirting or whatever it was is probably over or never got started. So don't go running off doing something that you will regret later. Remember you are marry and first obligation is to your husband.
2006-09-14 07:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex, but if you're trying to do this as revenge that isn't going to help your marriage. It's just going to throw more heat on the fire as they say. You need to approach your husband in a rational, calm manner and express that this friendship he is developing makes you uncomfortable. If there is really nothing going on between the two of them, then he should respond positively towards you. If he gets defensive or tries to tell you that you are over reacting, then that is a sign that he is hiding something. Whether it be a relationship on the side or just strong feelings for this other woman. Don't accuse him of anything either. that will just get him upset and want to push you away. Instead, just try to inquire about the details of this friendship. Maybe ask if you can all go out to lunch so that you can get to know her too. If there is nothing going on then he shouldn't feel uncomfortable about that.
2006-09-14 07:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by sexy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree, yet with situations. sure, a married guy can no longer (sorry, stereotyping lower back) or maximum married adult adult males can no longer, have a platonic dating with somebody who's recent in physique and of the different intercourse it is around the age of activity. In different words, it takes a individual who's recent in physique. I even have chat buddies that are woman from Japan, Russia, Guam, eire, Brazil, and Barbados. i will never ever get there! So there is not any might desire to flirt, no might desire to apply double meanings, no might desire to crave s3x! I communicate approximately s3x with a number of them, yet no longer too intimately. I even have deleted various that went searching for some thing greater intimate. So, to sum it up, you're precise! yet with in the scope of a recent dating, a bodily recent dating. those I refuse to have interplay in. in particular because of the fact i like my spouse. So what can we communicate approximately. nicely, the day ahead of this we talked some 4 legged rooster. that could desire to grant you a sprint on the somewhat dissimilar conversations.
2016-12-12 08:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're married, you should only have opposite sex friends if your partner is okay with it. And if there's romantic interest then just don't go there. Not worth it in the long run.
2006-09-14 07:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by ingy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it! western laws are bullshit! there is no law stating that you are not allowed to have friends. there is no law stating that it's illegal to fall inlove with someone that is supposingly a friend. people need to stop making up all these bullshitt laws already and let nature takes it's course and be ******** HAPPY.
2006-09-14 07:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
one wrong dosnt make a right no dont put your self as low as he is
2006-09-14 07:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by fancey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋