Girls Your comments please!?

Question

Do you know me? I'm the guy who says good morning everyday. Maybe I'm the guy who opens the door for you every morning as you head to your office. I might be the guy at the school caferteria that you feel comfortable talking to for just a minute or two as we drop trash in the recptical. Maybe I'm a good friend of a friend that you feel totaly relaxed talking to about everything and anything. Perhaps when dates don't go right or promotions don't come your way or weekend friends just p*ss you off, you lean on my shoulder or you unload your problems. I listen and I listen some more. I have a soothing quality. I put you at ease because I'm different. I truly am a friend you trust with your deepest problems and darkest secrets. We have know each other forever, or perhaps it just seems that way.Your friends hate me. I'm not the life of the party, not a jock, not funny, the boss or rich and certainly nothing to look at and because of this we will be friends at best. I am in pain!

I want to thank all of you for answering so far. I just want everyone to know the question is real. I am a real person with these feelings. I've experienced much of what is contained in the question. But I didn't write the question for my benefit, I wrote it for each and everyone of you. I wanted to get each of you that might be involved with someone like me to take a minute and think of the answer you just wrote to my question. If you truly believe in what you have written, don't wait a second longer. Pick up the phone and tell "me" you know we belong together. Drop what ever you are doing and run to "me" immediately. Don't say a word, just kiss me and tell me you always knew we belonged together. I know, because I already know I love you.

Answer 1

I don't know you...
Maybe you are the guy I say 'good morning, how are you?' each day.
Maybe you were always there for me when I needed a shoulder to cry on.
Maybe you opened the door for me and I never looked straight into your eyes to thank your kindness.
Maybe you were the angel who picked me up with steady hands as I fell to the ground.
Maybe when it rained down on the entire world, you held up an umbrella to protect me... but I turned you down... I like the rain, it's hard to tell I'm crying.
Maybe you're the guy I had a crush on 3 years ago and still wish I could hold tight and never let go.
Maybe you never understood me.
Maybe you're the only one who understands me.
Maybe you are a dream that's too good to be true.
Perhaps I saw you the other day but I was too busy thinking why I never find you.
Maybe you listened to me when I couldn't hear myself.
Maybe you held me in your arms and grasped my pain before it could touch my heart.
Maybe I... don't know you at all.

But my home is you. And I will never forget those days I spent waiting for a chance to meet you one more time. To look into those deep blue eyes of yours that hold me steady in their grasp as you study me like an unearthed book on a shelf. I'm sure I will meet you someday - this life is too long and time is running out on me. But believe me I will never let you down. So hold on there and believe in yourself because it's true.

Good luck in your future endeavours.

Stay safe. - Maryam

EDIT: Jimmy, I just read your Added Details and found it essential to let you know... what I said above was my Hero, still is. And I've met him only once for a matter of minutes. Never saw him again, and it's been 9 months. It's amazing what life gives you and some of us don't necessarily realize the beauty standing before us. I can point out countless people :) He did his job well and is glad to do what he loves to do... save lives. I just want him to be proud that he saved the right person. And will go on with my never dying respect.

You know, I hope you find what you're looking for. We all have a reason, we wait for our ignorance to fade yet don't let it. A shout-out to all people doubting true love. If you love someone, you feel safe with, loved and the greatest with them... TELL THEM! Let them know before time runs out.... whatever happens is what you were destined to get. And God doesn't put something in front of you that he doesn't -mean- to be there. He never gives more than you can handle. And that is the beauty of life!

When you have the ability to have survived the hardships (whatever they may be) than you'll have the wisdom to help the ones less fortunate do the same. Life is rewarding in is own way, so trust yourself and believe what is happening to be reality...
Well, that's all I have to say about that... for now.

Stay safe.

Answer 2

Comment from a guy...

You are in pain and I can feel your anguish, but here's the thing. You CAN be a friend and attractive too. But you have to trigger those attraction buttons if you're looking to be more than a friend.

Women aren't looking for jocks, rich guys, funny guys, or bosses. Women are looking for guys that make them FEEL those things that are irristable. It can't be explained in an e-mail message but the good news is that it's a skill that can be learned by you, if you're willing to do what ever it takes.

Search on the internet, you will find a pluthera of information, unless of course you just want girls to feel sorry for you...ya, NOT attractive!

Answer 3

:) sounds to me like u always stuck in the friend zone huh?

here's the thing... i think u got the polite, sweet, kind, "nice guy" thing down pat. that's great..but ur not done yet. u are coming off as Harmless...but probably not coming off as Flirtatious, Exciting, or Manly. that takes work, and some brain power to understand what a Man should be, and what a Woman wants.

(if u have time, take a look at the question i posted up regarding masculinity...)

anyways, question is, are u confident about yourself? as a Good Person, and as a Manly Man? i don't mean manly as in rude, pig headed, obnoxious, thinking ur all that, etc... i mean Manly as in Take care of responsibilites, know how to be respectful, and Learn how to please a woman?

have u ever thought that women tend to like the "bad boy"? my theory is that bad boys, altho "bad", for some reason, their confidence allows them to somehow make a woman feel Special. and i think that is their key.... a smile, a look, that makes a woman feel Attractive... "bad boys" w/ charm KNOW how to do things like that to make a woman feel so exciting, special...and that is what she is attracted to, not his "badness". it's his Confidence.. u know? so, i think what u need to do is work on your ability to make a woman feel Special; whether if it's by Looking into her eyes, Flashing a special smile, *FLIRTING* a bit... and when u like a girl, Do something about it. buy her flowers, ask her out, don't be Afraid of ur feelings OR rejection.. that is being a man. not caring what others think, and being strong enough to Go for what u want, and yet Respect a woman's feelings.

i think the less u understand what women want and need, the less confidence u will have in urself to Satisfy that. so go practice; trial and error. do things that are out of ur way to make a woman feel special, and if she doesn't appreciate, find someone who WILL. ur not doing anything wrong, but u need to put urself out there as a Smart, Confident, Capable, Responsibilte, Trustworthy, Attractive, Special person. and when u make someone else feel that way, and she makes u feel that way, u reinforce each other. good luck!

Answer 4

So are you every girls guy? The guy we would all love to have but cant find? Your the guy we take for granted as our "best friend" but can't ever see going out with. Your the guy who loves the girl and cant tell her?
Your that guy?


Actually I think your the guy who lives next door, who I secretly love and cant tell because we will always be just friends.

What an amazing thought.
Stay safe who ever you are, and thank you

Answer 5

No, I don't know you. But by what you have written I can say that they are very few guys like you. You actually open up your heart and speak from your soul. I don't know you, but i sure wish I did. And because of all those differences you stated and the one I just brought up is that you are so special, and that one person you speak about is very lucky to have friend like you.

Answer 6

Wow this sounds like someone that many people would take advantage of. It even sounds like me at one point through my high school years. I am not sure how to answer this question, but I must say that it is wrong very wrong for people to use/utilize people with this attitude or character ONLY in time of need. At times we take advantage and even come to think that people like this arent worth much.Hope my comments helps.

Answer 7

Unfortunately, people can be very shallow, and it does seem as though nice guys finish last. However, the right person will eventually come along and see you for who you really are.

Answer 8

you are truly a talented writer. I don't know what your question is, but it really doesn't matter. you are sensitive and kind but you hide your real personality. though you smile to everybody you are not as happy as you want to seem. you are not my friend, but the more I re-read what you wrote, the more I want to change that

Answer 9

ok right here is the deal... shall all of us say 10/10 or 2/10 yet anybody is distinctive. to no longer point out in 10 years she may well be a variety or a huge fat cow. bypass with your intestine, who cares what human beings think of jack!

Answer 10

For my comment you intrigue me.It seems that your a perfect friend for me.Im glad to be one of your friends but i notice that you describe yourself only being friend how about being boyfriend?
just asking!!!!!!!!