My son taps, he is very good. Last year he entered his first competition and won gold. The problem is ...that there are not any boys at the tap school he goes to, and he doesn't like to dance at his public school when asked...scared of being teased.
2006-09-14 06:55:08 · 10 answers · asked by hipchic 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Dancing
I was the only male in my dance classes for 10 out of 15 years. First, dance is a sport just like soccer, tennis, football, etc. I remember having a masculine complex when I first started dancing, what will all the other guys think of me? One of the first rules in dance is to just "give in" to the music, be oblivious to others around you so that you can interpret the music effectively through the body. Many dance schools offer boys only classes, and I was in three boys only classes; jazz, hip hop and ballet for 5 years. In my experience, finding camraderie among other males dancers only helped my dance career, plus for once I could identify with someone. One bit of advice- because of the lack of males in the dance community, you're son will be in high demand if he keeps up those gold medals!!! A competent male dancer is a needle in a haystack...Encourage his goals and pack him full of confidence because he's obviously very talented at tap, he has the possibilty to go very far in a field that is somewhat devoid of males! One added bonus is that women will totally dig his dancing abilities later, post puberty and especially into college.
Good luck!
2006-09-14 10:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by ThisMess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible he will be teased a little by some boys who are, of course, jealous of his talent. But if he's good, I'd say dazzle them. Maybe some good-looking girls from his tap school would be willing to join him in presenting a good routine at the public school with him at the center of the performance. He might still get some teasing from the guys, but deep down they'll be thinking, "Wow, I thought this was a girlie thing, but look at all the babes he's spending time with!" And the girls from his public school most likely will be impressed, too.
2006-09-14 07:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by Frosty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is good (important) and he likes it (much, much more important) then let him continue. I would go with what the first one said about not making him do it at school; more than likely he will be teased (every kid gets teased about something, and this is one thing that does get a lot of teasing; not trying to down it because it is a good thing, but the honest fact is that it is a big thing in teasing). But more than likely he will be teased and it may diminish his fondness for something he is good at and could help him a lot in the future. Once he grows up and matures more (and all the other kids do too) he'll see it doesn't matter what others think and it will be less problematic for him (but he'll still have something he enjoys very much).
2006-09-14 07:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show him some famous male tap dancers and how good he can be one day and how it's not something to be ashamed of. don't let him quit unless he looses interest, he might regret it later. If he's scared then don't have him tell anyone. No one really needs to know anyway. He shouldn't have to dance at public school either. I wish him luck at his next competition, and congrats on the gold!!!
2006-09-14 11:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations to your son, he's obviously gifted. I hope he doesn't let the teasing discourage him.
Tapping is the most masculine of dance forms (except for maybe flamenco), so it's a great choice for a young man. I assume he's heard of the Tap Dogs or some of the other tap groups that copy them. Maybe if you invest in a "Tap Dog" outfit of workboots (with taps on, of course), flannel shirt and jeans, he won't be so shy about tapping in public?
2006-09-14 14:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by Kylie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That will lead to being a good dancer, and not this hip hop crap, but good dancing and women will think he is classy and smooth. It would be nice as a father if he played sports too but I wouldn't look down on it. He might get teased now, but he will be very cool later!
2006-09-14 07:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by buffman316 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i imagine it would want to be ok in this difficulty. you won't be able to anticipate a boy who has spent 7 years attending to renowned to be a woman to bypass again to being a boy. She has spent too a lot time being taught to act like a woman and this is really a lot all she knows. I say provide her possible and see how the different ladies reply, do in basic terms not tell them the reality.
2016-11-26 23:09:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him do what he loves. Later in life he will have friends who enjoy the same thing. Also when he gets older and makes it big then everyone who does tease him will be watching him be a star on tv.
2006-09-14 08:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by Bchlvr 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that everybody is different and have different tastes and interests. I see nothing wrong with it as I see nothing wrong with girls playing hockey, baseball, football. Patrick Swayze was a tap dancer and look at how it turned out! ~~~Way to go to you and your son~~~
2006-09-14 07:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't want to do it at school, don't make him. the people there wouldn't appreciate it anyway. good luck to him in any future competitions
2006-09-14 07:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by crime.dog738 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋