2006-09-14 06:04:41 · 7 answers · asked by timmyjimmu 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I was just discussing this with my brother a minute ago. He's drop dead handsome but can't approach girls and all. Well, first of all, you need to get this out of your head... 'I CANNOT TALK TO WOMEN'. You can walk, talk and dance with them. They won't bite you. You don't have to be TOO cautious about your dressing and stuff. They will like you for who you are, not what you try to be. Body language is also very important while talking. Take care of these simple things, and enjoy your date on Saturday evening!!
2006-09-14 06:34:59 · answer #1 · answered by Harry thePotter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. In my opinion, girls don't care nearly as much about looks as guys do. Women are more interested in personality and the way a guy acts than they are about how a guy looks. If anything, being a good-looking guy might be a disadvantage because it might make girls think you are conceited. Here's my advice: forget approaching girls, forget asking them to dance or hang out. Just talk to them like people and if the conversation leads to interesting places, then ask for a dance or a date. Pretend that you don't know that you are good-looking, because that's just a matter of opinion and personal taste anyway. Decide that what really counts is who you are on the inside and find ways to help people see past your pretty face.
You'll get different versions of this same advice from everyone who knows. Handsome but unapproachable is for models and movie stars. It's your choice. You could limit yourself to your appearance or you could decide to be something more than a pretty face.
If you don't believe me, just take a look around at all the average-looking guys who have attractive girlfriends.
Good luck.
2006-09-14 13:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by anyone 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok great answers!!! I met my hubby, who was thought to be gay, because,at 26 he was still a virgin,and was shy too.and he had the same problem. I met him,we knew each other for about three years,and he was " just a guy I knew". I was attracted to much, um, lessee, to put this nicely,more "dangerous,sophisticated," types of men, ie, the Matrix dude ( keanu reeve's character) or the Jack dawson, types,rather than the shy,quiet,jewelery- wearing bookworm ( picture silk shirt,leather-type necklace,and jeans) and that was hubby. I cleaned him up,gave him a hot meal,and told him tha he was trying too hard. the women we knew ( we were both in a role-playing group called the Camarilla that was based on a game called Vampire,the masquerade. ) said he was slovenly,unkempt,and with a lazy eye, he didn't make for a handsome dude. I made sure he got glasses (i t corrected the lazy eye) ,brushed his teeth,shaved,and ditched the damn leather-thong necklace,and cleaned him up. it restored his real confidence,and he saw that he wanted to get married and have a real family. he said he was ready. Guess who he proposed to after losing IT? Yeah,me. We have been married 10 years,and he is average looking. My point: don't try too hard, approach us like you would a cup of coffee, and NOT a rabid animal, ( we dont bite) and yes, average men DO have hot g/f's. Why?? It is all in the personality. I don't care how good lookin you are,if you are loud,rude, ( fart and belch in public and think it is cute/funny,ect) ignorant,or just plain mean, you will remain single for a loooooooooong time! Good manners are still king. ( ever open a door for a female? Notice the look she gave you??) Learn to be a gentleman,trust me on this,you will go far. Hubby is a gentleman,and he didn't learn it on his own! His mommy raised him right. i just took over from there. Be warm,sincere,have a good sense of humor that does not offend anyone ( ditch the "yo momma" jokes,and the derogetory ( sp??) jokes,) and be down-to-earth! Leave the superficial, " I am too sexy for my life" crap to the movie stars. be human,and be a gentleman,and you'll do fine. Don't worry, you are young yet. I didn't meet hubby till I was 28,and I wasn't looking. In fact, I was in love with his friend,and when he lost me, hubby was waiting in the wings. So,relax,it'll come to ya.
2006-09-14 14:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Robert D is telling the truth.
I'm going to start it this way: How I see a guy. Now it may be so that allot of people would tell you that looks play a big roll, and just to say LOOKS FA ID!!! Now to get to the point, when I would go to a party, disco, outing and so on I would recognize the good looking guys, and yes I respect them but I'm not going to jump on their lap!! To have someone it should be earned, not money like, I mean respect. I look for the guy that smiles allot and isn't afraid to laugh, I look for manners, and how he treats the people around him. You can see by the way someone talks to another how their body language is, so you could get an idea how they might be, But remember don't fake it, we can see when a guy fakes it.
If you are interested in a girl and smiles at her and she doesn't smile back, don't feel stupid cause she could be shocked! It is always great when a guy smiles at me, and I do get shocked sometimes and forget to smile back!!
If a girl is really interested she would look your way a few times, o and if she smiles, then you go and make your way to her. And no funny pick up lines pleas!!!
If you are nerves, don't be still for to long. Look around you and ask her about something (and make it interesting, let her think).
The best thing you should remember: BE YOURSELF. She would like you for who you are if not their are plenty more!!
Now you gou and talk to a girl!! All luck and best wishes!!
Lots of love Angel*****
2006-09-14 14:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Sunshine Angle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax a little and realise that girls are human, too, and all you need to do is act like another friendly human! They may be shy, too, or they may have been taught that girls should wait for a guy to show interest first. Just relax and try talking to a female the same way you would to another guy. Then when the music starts, say "let's dance." Do it once, and you'll see that it's really pretty easy. All sorts of guys, even the dorky ones, talk to girls and are friends with them - so can you. Just be pleasant and don't try to show off and stuff like that. Mostly girls think that's dumb. Try to be natural with them and kind of forget that they are GIRLS - just treat them like PEOPLE.
2006-09-14 13:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by Maple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband was the same way. so that's why I started talking to him instead of him starting the conversation.
Just be yourself & if you don't have the courage to go &
talk to a girl on your own then ask your friends to
set you up w/ someone & all of you can go on a double date. Just BE SURE to see a picture of the girl before you go on the date !
good luck & hope this advice helps
2006-09-14 13:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a bottle coke cola pour half it out and feel it with vodka take it with u when u go out and sip on it. they dont call it liquid courage for nothing
2006-09-14 14:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋