My bf and I have been together since January. We made th moving in together to soon, and it has been difficult on us. A while ago, we both agreed that it would be best for us to not live together anymore to save our relationship. We have not done that yet, though we have been talking about it for weeks. Recently, within the past few days, my bf told me that he is becoming very sick of me, and a lot of those feelings he used to have for me have faded. He told me he just wants to be friends, and that maybe (after one of us finally moves out) we can start things up again, but not to count on that. I do agree with him; we shouldn't be living together right now, but I really don't want to break up with him. We've been fighting a lot lately, and it sucks. I don't know what do do right now, since neither of us have another place to go right now. I have been sleeping on the sofa the past few nights, trying to get some space. I want to work on this, but I fear that he is losing his desire to.
2006-09-14 05:36:13 · 17 answers · asked by Chris R 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Find somewhere else to go. He has told you in no uncertain terms that he does not want this relationship. Do not prolong the move. Everyone deserves to be happy. Life is too short to be miserable. Move on, let him move on and if the two of you are meant to be together later on down the road, then it will happen. If not then accept it because life goes on for both of you.
2006-09-14 05:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by pampam50 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he's pretty much done with the relationship, for now at least. You can't force someone to love you. The best thing for you to do is to move out and give it time. Staying may just put a bigger wedge between the two of you.
You both need space to sort things out. And if it's really over then you need to accept it and move on. It's going to be painful...but hanging on when it's over is going to be worse. Don't miss out on other experiences in life...this relationship ending may be the beginning of something new for you!
Remember if it's meant to be it will work out and if not then move on...you'll be alright.
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2006-09-14 17:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by The Tiki God 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is not interested in the relationship anymore. If you guys are fighting that much after living together then there is a chance it wouldn't work out anyway. I would let him take his space and see what haappens. You don't have to go out looking for a new bf but you don't have to say no if one finds you either.
2006-09-14 12:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by thinktink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOOK have a talk. ASK him if you both can just be roommates since you have no where to go. THEN try to get your self a bed. HE should be the one sleeping on the couch.AND get a hobby or spend time a way from there durning the day. Stay out of his way. THEN offer him the option if he wants he can see some one else.I THINK you need to work on being More independent so he cant push you around.
2006-09-14 12:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is hard to answer. I have been in that same position. What I did was move to a friends for a week and found my own place. That is all I can suggest. You can also work things out on a mutual thing and there should not be any hard feelings.
2006-09-14 12:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by justincausejustintime 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably not what you want to hear and I don't know the whole of your relationship but it seems to me (speaking from personal experience) that it isn't going to work out. If he says he's getting sick of you, not to count on it and you think he's losing his desire to fix it...most likely that's the case. I'm sorry guy but I think you need to move on once this is finished. Best of luck to you!
2006-09-14 13:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, be stronger and break up with him. I know that it gonna be difficult but this is the best thing that u can do. Find another place to live and try to encounter a better guy.
Take care.
2006-09-14 15:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by "D" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fear it's already over. You are going to have to move out. Time spent away from one another might allow you a different perspective.
2006-09-14 13:12:57 · answer #8 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, you've got brain, use it! where is the basis of this relationship? a cock or an ***? it has to be love, otherwise it doesn't last long..step back and take a closer look, if you live around LA, you may come live with me...provided you're not a psycho or something of course...
2006-09-14 13:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by Fabulous, young and broke! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's pretty much told you its over...Start looking for a new place to stay and be done with it...I don't mean to sound harsh...but seriously...just get out and move on.
2006-09-14 12:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋