I love my family so much, they have helped me through some very difficult times latley and wouldn' never want to hurt their feelings BUT they are driving me nuts!!!! Ok, I'm getting divorced so it's just me and my kids now but I can't even go tot he grocery store with out my cel ohone ringing and if I don't answer it the phone is ringing when I get home "Where were you I couldn't reach you!" Forget about it if I'm aout for more than a couple hours, they put out an all points bullitin, I get calls from every family member...I am 36 years old and I have three kids!!! Now they are trying to fix me up with guys they think would be good for me,,,,ugh, maybe I should move away? No, they would have a heart attack...all of them collectivly. Help!!!
2006-09-14 05:33:31 · 10 answers · asked by sasha 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if things were the other way around you would be right there for your family too...... thats what family does ... they take care of thier own ....but you already know that... they love you
2006-09-14 05:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by the boss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like they care deeply for you, I think you should tell them you understand how much they care about you but you are in need of some space and you need it NOW! Tell them you appreciate it but it is making you physically ill!!!!! You are a big girl and can handle most everything, maybe they feel it is their duty. Good luck, I am a mom to grown children, it is a big concern. I hope your X is not threatening you if so then they have a legitimate sense of fear for you.
2006-09-14 12:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONESTY!! It may hurt some feelings, but you need to think about YOU first. And look at what it is doing to you. Just tell them, I know and understand you guys want to be here for me, but it is really getting to me and it is actually stressing me out so bad that its not good for my health. Please just know that I AM 36 years old and Im not helpless without a man. (to your parents): you raised me right? Well, know that you raised me RIGHT! and trust me to make my own way for me and my kids from here on out. (now for everyone): I understand you all want to be there for me, and I appreciate it, I really do, but what I need from you all more than anything, is just be there. I will let you know when I need you and what it is I need. That will be the biggest help for me right now.
This way they wont feel bad when they realize that the way they are being there for you, isnt the way you need them to be. They are doing the best that they know how. The ONLY way they know how to be there for you. And unless you tell them HOW you need them to be there they wont know. People dont read minds. : ) Good luck to you hun.
2006-09-14 12:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by FuzzyDice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with germainer. I think u should consider calling a family meeting and let them know how u feel abt evrything. In thought though i really think they r just concern abt u hon! they love u very much 2. dont be too hard on them.
goodluck!
2006-09-14 12:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a family meeting and then tell everyone how you feel, also tell them you love them for caring, but you are old enough to handle things on your own. Good Luck!
2006-09-14 12:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know how much you appreciate their concern, but you have to learn how to deal with things on your own. You need time to yourself to figure out what you want/need to do and although their advice is appreciated, you want to learn about life on your own terms. Good Luck
2006-09-14 12:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are always going to be there for you even when you may feel smothered but tell them when they take it too far.
2006-09-14 12:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful that they care, and politely tell them to back off a bit...and don't do it in that smart*ss way that you answer my questions. ;) Kick some butt tomorrow.
2006-09-14 12:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by now you should know that a family never backs off, they never mind their business either... Maybe they are just worried about you that's all..
2006-09-14 12:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must shoot them all. that is the only guaranteed way for them to leave you alone for good!
2006-09-14 12:35:57 · answer #10 · answered by Kevin H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋