2006-09-14 05:27:32 · 22 answers · asked by Clearly Kilbs 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My friend of 4 1/2 years turned my mom into animal services for neglect and abuse.Oct 05 my friend was interviewing for jobs & came to my moms house to stay over. She stayed apporx. 4 days.during her time there she said she ask me about the dog and we dismissed her by saying shes taken care of, then moved on to another conversation. I guess, since we did not answer her question/concern correctly in July 06 our neighbor who was checking my moms mail since we were on vacation notice a citation from the animal svc for a report of abuse. This was on 4 July.We went to the agency to get the info to a suprise I found out it was my friend who stays in VA and I stay in ATL. She made the report June 28. 8 1/2 mnths after she visit my moms home. I've seen her in April and May when she came to visit my new apartment and she said nothing about the dog. To conclude there was no neglect. We were chrg a 500 fine for no dog house, she hasnt had 1 for 11 yrs bc she lives on the closed in frnt porch.
2006-09-14 05:29:00 · update #1
O I forgot She said She didn't understand why I was mad because she didn't turn me in. She turned my mom in!! I also found out she called the agnecy more than one time making sure they went to the house to see about the dog. When I asked her why she did it? she said she was worried about the dog in Georgia July heat!! Clearly a two minute call to me is shorter than the investingating animal protection agency in georgia on the internet?
Can i forgive her and wash my hands of our firendship. I've already forgiven her to what she did and jsut haven't been talking I guess but my other friends whom were in our circle feel funny about certain things and want us to be friends again. But I can forgive but not befriend a person I can't trust?
Remind you the dog agnecy dont go aroung giving citations unless called most people in my neighborhood do not have them and won't get find because someone has to turn you in first.
The dog is well groomed, all shots, fed, and have water
2006-09-14 05:29:58 · update #2
My mom was pissed and wanted me to pay the $500 fine and the cost of a dog house. We told the agency that no one in our neighborhood has dog houses bc we have built in front porches which is shelter but the dog needs there own domain outside even thought he can get rained on he replied. We also could have snitched on the neighborhood to force to get one.I got stuck with paying a $500 fine and the cost of a dog house that the dog doesn't even use out side of. So i'm asking is this forgiveable?I just feel I can't trust her to come to me as a friend and talked to me , drop me a email, nor take responsibility for her actions. I asked her to help pay and she said, no, Its not my problem and she's glad what she did because the did find something wrong. She caused tension b/ween me and my mom and its weird wi/ our other friends. We've talked about things before so why could she not have come to me. I haven't talked to her since July 5th when I told her to have a good life. AM I wrong??
2006-09-14 05:30:18 · update #3
On the contrary to what others on here say I would not forgive her to tell you the truth. Here is my story I have a huskey I live up north in Wisconsin, I have a dog house that is insulated and huge he has a 40 ft circumfrance to run around in all the bones one can imagine the only thing is he won't stay home garrenteed and I have this ex-friend who harrased the hell out of me calling the cops and animal humane society because the dog is always tied up and she thought that was abuse. I live in a town where there is a leash law and a fine for dogs running free. I put up with it for 3 years!! Finally I pressed charges for harrasment on her! Some people need to get a life, and I think getting harrased over a animal that is fine is unexcusable!! I didn't get any fines or anything sence all the dogs need were fit and the only problem was the dog is over weight! People apply human feelings to a animal that doesn't have it. Animals may seem human but they are not!!!! They function soley on instinct and when they are comfertable they are happy!!! Hell with her man. Find a friend that doesn't injoy getting people 500 dollar fines over stupid stuff!!
2006-09-14 05:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't give details, so it's hard to say whether this person was justified in reporting your mom, but forgiveness is always a good idea -- for you.
Forgiveness doesn't mean "forgetness." It's not the same as saying the thing never happened, just that you realize that human beings aren't perfect, and you don't want your energy, your mind and heart, to be eaten up by being upset over what someone else did.
Sometimes it's easier to forgive if you can find some explanation for what the person did, that makes sense to you. Step back and look at the situation as objectively as you can - would an outsider have had any reason to think that the animals involved weren't being cared for well?
Either the answer is "yes," in which case, even if you hate the situation, you admit to yourself that there might have been reason to be concerned, and that concern for the welfare of those animals might have made this person feel he or she had to speak up. You forgive because while you might not agree with the decision to call in the authorities, you see where it's possible someone might have thought there was a problem that needed to be addressed.
If the answer is truly "no," no reasonable outsider could possibly have thought there was any reason to be concerned at all, then it's clear that this person has problems clouding his or her judgement. You forgive because it's clear this person is troubled and confused.
Ultimately, you forgive because it frees you. Anger and hatred are like huge suitcases that you drag around behind you, filling them with your time, energy, and thoughts - all of which would be better used for something that benefits you and the world around you. It's not easy to forgive, but it does free up your soul to focus on better things. Good luck!
2006-09-14 05:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she was a good friend, she would have said something to you or your mom before reporting to the agency. It is assinine to require a dog house when you have a closed porch which is even better.
2006-09-14 05:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and move on! Its never a good thing to carry a burden over your shoulders. At least the situation was taking care of. Try to talk to her and ask her why she did it. Anyhow, good luck and best wishes!
2006-09-14 05:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by That One Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she deserved to be turned in, then so be it. No one has the right to hurt another creature.
Give some serious consideration to whatever led to the "turning in" and then try to view it objectively as an outsider. Ignoring the fact this involves your mom, honestly answer the question, would you have turned the person in for the act in question.
2006-09-14 05:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems a bit harsh on her part...also sounds like something else is going on or had transpired between the 2 of you. I think something else happened with you two andher way to retaliate was to call the pet law on you. Either way...move on.
2006-09-14 05:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the law requires you have a dog house then there is nothing you can do....did you try to fight the case in court, to explain that the dog has shelter?
2006-09-14 05:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Moosha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what your mom did. If the report was unfounded, then find a new friend, but if your friend had a reason, then thank her and I hope your mom learned something. Did you friend talk to you or your mom about this before she reported it?
2006-09-14 05:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by vbryant52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its obvious you have bad feelings towards your freind. If you have to think about it this much, you wont be able to be freinds again. It happens to the best of freinds, you just grow apart. Thats a sad story,.... I am sure you guys had the times of your lifes together.
2006-09-14 06:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did your MOm do?? If she was cruel to animals then she probably deserved to be turned in, and you should applaud her for having the cahones to do it. If she is a true friend then you should forget and forgive because they are hard to find.
2006-09-14 05:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by owllady 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋