2006-09-14 05:09:22 · 23 answers · asked by red 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no,, whats wrong is he didnt care enough about you to stay out of trouble
2006-09-14 05:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on what and how long he got locked for. Let's say he's out on the block, hustling and got caught up.. but you knew about it and stayed with him, I would say yes that you would be wrong. If you're with a man 5yrs and all the while he's doing dirt on the street that you know about, you're saying to him, "I'm okay with what you do". If you benefitted somehow, by him paying your rent or giving money for your hair or clothes, you're just as responsible for his activity while in the relationship. You gave him the impression that, you'd be a ride or die type female.
But if he was into some ish that you didn't know about and you would object to, or if you tried at some point to get him out the game but he paid you no mind, I would consider you justified to go ahead about your business and end it. Then again, only you having kids together could I see as being the reason why you'd still be with him. If you don't have kids with him but stay (even if you were hoping he'd change) you're somewhat responsible for the image you put in his mind about you.
When you say you're not having it, but you don't put your foot down to bring it to an end or up and leave to show him you mean business, he can't take you seriously.
2006-09-14 12:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he was framed, he got locked up for doing something wrong. You owe him nothing. Move on, find a real man who has enough sense to stay out of trouble.
2006-09-14 12:12:12 · answer #3 · answered by grisgris0905 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont see this as a question of right or wrong
whatever you do, just do it for YOU and its right
but if you want my opinion here it is
if you love him you stay with him
if you dont you dont
if the two of you have a truly meaningful relationship you will discuss with him, your needs right now (if you feel what you are needing without him, is a physical relationship)
if you love each other, you will work out some agreement
what i do feel would be wrong would be for you to deny him any sort of explanation right now.................after 5 years
good luck
2006-09-14 12:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by iammissmess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, absolutely not. If he can't stay out of trouble and he doesn't want to get his life together then you have every right to do whats right for YOU. He will learn in time, that your not the only one who won't put up with his problems and his actions. He will be forced to grow up if you and others show him that its not tolerated in your life and future. I say good for you. He is no good for you and apparently doesn't love or care about you at all if he can't keep himself out of trouble to be with you. Blessed be
2006-09-14 13:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! It's your life and he's not your husband. Even if he were in prison for 3 months, i would say you should leave him because guys like that are usually not going to change.
2006-09-14 12:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you need to take care of yourself. Dont miss out on life writing letters to someone locked up.
2006-09-14 12:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by loladoreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you truely love him.... and how long he will be locked up and what he did to get locked up for. its not wrong to leave him...... do what you need to do for you!!!
2006-09-14 12:12:27 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, no man should ask someone to wait on them if they are going to be incarcerated. You shouldn't have to put your life onhold just because your man doesn't know how to deal with his problems,,,,,
This doesn't have anything to do with if you love him you will wait, because if he loved you he wouldn't ask you to wait.
You can be there for him on a friendship basis, but it would be best to move on
2006-09-14 12:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ? is it 1 year or more that he is getting ? cause if his getting busted for 6 months or less .. you can wait . but trust me when he goes in , hes going to need you and miss you
2006-09-14 12:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋