Hi i am 20 year old single mom and my daughter thinks my roomate/ now boyfriend is her father.My daughter Jamie is 2 years old and fairly well behaved. When i moved into the apartment Kevin my roomate and now steady boyfriend felt sorry for me i had to beg him he was a junior in college and i was a freshmen to let me stay. We are alot like a family but i feeling as if i am lying to her i am getting married to Kevin hopefully next spring. We will be moving and are only staying here till i can transfer.My daughters father though has been coming to visit me finally giving me child support and wants to see my daughter? what should i do she does not know him?My boyfriend has gotten very mad at me for even speaking to him and i dont want problems. I have had old feelings resurface though in a big way for my ex. bf and daughters dad he was my first love and everything else.?
2006-09-14 05:03:35 · 4 answers · asked by claire d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her father invited me out to dinner tommorow and seems to want to be romantic i am confused?
2006-09-14 05:05:05 · update #1
well she has the right to know her real father, make sure u let him know before you talk to her about it that this is not a part time gick if he wants to be involved in her life it has to be on a regular schedule! Then explain to her she has 2 daddys! Your fiance has to understand that this doesnt make him any less of a father to her she just is getting one in addition.
As for you and him getting back 2gether, well only u can answer this but remember there is a reason you broke up and it sounds to me like he left u high and dry years ago I wouldnt even think once about letting him back in your life romanticly. And if you decide your new man treats you better and you want to stay with him, I would include him in the meeting (s) to make it clear to him and your ex that he is your man and the only father your daughter has ever known. Good Luck
2006-09-14 05:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by connys1976 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOUR CHILD HAS A RIGHT TO KNOW HER FATHER. IF YOUR IN A COMMITED RELATIONSHIP YOU DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT TO DATE YOUR EX IF YOUR HOPING TO GET MARRIED IN THE SPRING.
SOUNDS LIKE YOU JUMPED FROM ONE MAN TO THE NEXT AND NOW TRYING TO GO BACK TO THE FIRST. I SUGGEST YOU TAKE TIME OUT AND FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT OUT OF LIFE AND FOR YOUR DAUGHTER.
2006-09-14 05:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no.1 - dont shack up with the father , see what he's up to . if you still care , he may be wanting to play some more games still, which you dont need. be honest with the new guy ,, better now than later.
2006-09-14 05:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell,exboyfriend,to,bug,off,
2006-09-14 06:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by blackbutton100 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋