while my 3 kids (14, 12, and 8 years old.) are in school, i can clean my @$$ off all day and be so tired .they will come in and through their sh*t everywhere and have my house destroyed by the time they go to bed. then the next day we do it all over again. i'm getting tired to the point of going on strike(the hubby is as bad as the kids) should i go on strike and show them how it is? what would you do?....HELP !!!
2006-09-14 04:53:47 · 8 answers · asked by Gina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell them that if they don't start picking up after themselves they will get things taken away. $h!t at that age my butt would be cleaning my room, bathroom, kitchen, living room, take out the garbage, cook dinner sometimes, and I am an only child. My mom was a single mom and I had to help out.
You have 4 other people in your house, MAKE them get off their butts and help you. You may be a mom, but dammit, they made the mess they should clean it up.
Take away TV, games, etc for the kids, and tell hubby he ain't gettin any if he doesn't help you out!!
2006-09-14 04:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by starlet_80 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go on strike. They don't really care if things are that bad and it will drive you nuts long before it gets bad enough for them to care. The problem here is that they have been allowed to do this for way too long and think of it as a right. The key to changing this is to start with your husband. He sets the example and if he changes then they are more likely to follow. Start by sitting him down and talking to him about what he does and how it is giving the kids the impression that their behavior is ok. Once you get him to agree to these changes then it is time to have a family talk where it the required changes are announced. Make sure there are punishments involved for not following the new rules and make sure those punishments include your husband. Kids only take things serious when you follow through and both parents are supportive of the change and the punishments. Good luck...
2006-09-14 12:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 12, 11 yr old boys, and I know what you are going through. But I punish my boys if their room isn't clean buy the time i get home from work, they have plenaty time.Or if they want to do something fun they can't until the room is cleaned up. You got to put your foot down. You work really hard to give them a place don't let them destroy.,and if hubby is the same way doesn't help, They see that dad is the same way so they are just following wright behind him.
2006-09-14 12:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by lachina74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what I do. Everyone has chores they must do before going out to play or hang out with their friends. First get a dry erase board, put each of their names on it and what they are responsible for that day through the month. It may not get done daily but atleast you will get a break sometimes from doing everything all the time at first. It isn't a cure but it will give you more control over what happens and what doesn't happen and who does their part and who doesn't. Make sure you give them chores that are age appropriate like dishes for instance.... I have found that an 8 year old isn't the best at it so I would have one of the older children help out or you can help. The older ones need to learn responsibility now or they will never know what to do when they move out and they will come home because they can't handle it on their own. (that is my worst nightmare, I have 5) I want all of them to be sucessful and not to want to come home to live because your the maid. Its doesn't sound hard but it is, so don't give up enforce, enforce, enforce. Be consistant... kids smell weakness... lol Good luck!!!
2006-09-14 12:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a great idea, you should go on strike. Leave their stuff the way they left it don't clean after them for a few days see how they react. They might just appreciate you more and see how much you do for them. I did it, I have 5 kids they just wouldn't clean up after them selves till one day I said , I've had it, thats it. Left their rooms the way they left it was bad. One day my older son said why is my room a mess, And I said Think about it son its your room , its your job to clean it up. I'm not your slave. I just started to cry cause I never thought I would tell them that. So now they clean up after themselves and they do a pretty good job.
Good luck to you ,hope I was helpful to you.
2006-09-14 12:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by kookie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would go on strike!!!
when I saw my children/husband throwing their sh*t around I would stand there and tell them to pick it up
2006-09-14 12:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in thesame boat three kids they come home and mess the house up in minute shoe's in the middle of the floor book bags in front of the door and so on
2006-09-14 12:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them the next time you have to pick up their stuff its going in the trash. you will probably have to do it once but if the stuff is important they'll pick up after themselves they are all old enough to help out.
2006-09-14 12:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by monics_mommy06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋